Myself and my partner have been together eight years we’ve never lived together. I have one teenage son by previous marriage. He has two children aged 10 and 12 from a previous marriage. 10 months ago he asked if he and his children (he has custody 4 days per week) could move in with me for a few months to save a deposit for a bigger house as he was at the time renting a two bedroom property. I reluctantly agreed despite having my reservations. Six weeks after moving in with me he lost his job and remained unemployed for four months, I’m still convinced now that he didn’t do everything he could to find work during this time, he just laid on the sofa all day every day. During those four months of unemployment I was not only paying all the mortgage, bills and food shopping, I was also trying to cover as much as I could of his debt repayments because I was worried that if he was taken to court through nonpayments that he would never leave my house (He takes credit via cards and loans whenever it’s available) Subsequently I am now in significant debt which he can’t really afford to pay me back, he’s giving me around £80 a month and a few hundred towards food shops. I also had to pay for some car repairs for his car that broke down because again I was worried he wouldn’t get work unless he had a working car. Now 10 months on he saved no more than £400 towards a deposit for a new house. The state of my small house has declined through having additional people live here (holes in walls, broken floorboards, stains on carpets). My 15 year old son is having to share his room with a young child and no space or quiet time for his studies. Him and his children are incredibly messy, never tidy up after themselves, have poor manners and one can be very rude and insulting. He’s currently trying to see if he could get a council house as this would be much cheaper monthly and no deposit would not be needed however I’m not sure if he’ll be eligible. He said he’s sick of me being in a bad mood and stomping around cleaning up and it’s making him uncomfortable so he needs to leave sooner rather later. I feel anxious and low almost every day and now dread coming home which is sad as after a difficult divorce this little house was always my safe space but it feels the opposite now. A part of me feels that I’m justified for feeling completely overwhelmed and anxious about the living arrangements and debt that I’ve now got but then part of me also wonders am I being unreasonable? Have I got to an age now (mid 40’s) that if I can’t live with other people I’m gonna spend the rest of my life alone with cats after my son moves out? I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience of living with a man and their children and is it normal to have such low tolerance of other people living in your house.