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[beachcitygirl]

Adult step kids. I've made a few posts before but struggling like hell this week.

His sons are ok. Pleasant but dismissive. My step daughter who I care for greatly & has had a tough time has become a grade a bitch.
Not age (they're all in their late 30's/40's.

She has reacted badly to us buying our new house together & has openly questioned her inheritance & how she preferred it to be just her dad's house.

I could scream, she's so full of guile, not openly hostile that my DP can see but women see it at a mile off.

I feel ill with it all.

In your case I would 100% be tenants in common and both write wills so he can outline what he wants her to have in the will.

I would never jointly own a house with anyone again, tenants in common makes very little difference to you living together but it makes so much difference when one of you goes or when you both die to everyone else.

I think leaving it all to you is fine but it leaves you with a load of mess to clear up after he's died. Would you actually have a relationship with his daughter after he died anyway? Let alone feel like leaving her money 20/30yrs down the line? Tenants in common with carefully thought out wills would take care of all of that for you and not leave you in a such in a mess post him dying. It would also take care of your children if you dropped down dead tomorrow.

It's normally however that particular couple want it to be

Yes but as most people have children already in a 2nd marriage tenants in common is far more usual than in 1st marriages. I used to work in this area.

Think a will should be drawn up immediately stating that when you both die all 5 inherits equally as if you go first (it could happen) she may worm in her fathers ear and your children get nothing or vice-versa

Because - based on what you have shared - you are wildly overstepping.

Edit! Sorry - replying to this from the OP “I'm not sure quite what you mean by this, can you elaborate please. (Said kindly)”

Also agree that you need a better will. If you go first he is definitely caving to her demands to get more. Otherwise he'd be seeing through her now.

You're stiffing your own kids here.

Well it's done. Everything is equally ours and we have mirror wills.
What's mine is his & vice versa & she can lump it. None of the kids are without & all will be significantly looked after no matter who goes first.
We trust each other .
It's our money & frankly no one entitled to any of it. They've all been looked after for a long time.