The straw that broke the camel’s back part two - the thread with the happy ending (hopefully!)

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Part two.

London trip was amazing and the show was great!

Oh that's a shame. Obviously want meant to be.

Well done for taking the higher ground and not biting back at the email. That must have been difficult.

but in the end a few days went past and I couldn’t be bothered to engage.

😱

You absolute star! You have come so far since you first made your thread that I almost don't recognise you anymore. Whatever you are doing seems to be working, keep it up! 🌻

Ime nothing like a quick fling to fuel your confidence into a new life op.
I had a tattoo related to my fling to remind me I am actually worth a decent relationship and not the things ex used to tell me.
Indeed I met now dh not long after that fling. I def had a spring in my step when I met him.
Been together 12 years married with a dc..

I haven't read your other thread but agree with PPS that he is just miserable that you aren't miserable. I think every time he sent one of his emails to try and upset you, I would do something nice for myself - just something small like buying a punnet of strawberries, etc.

But you are doing marvellously just ignoring him. You are choking off his supply of glee.

Personally, I love the idea of an out of office - you could put more and more outlandish things as a reason you can't reply:
I am raising a Viking longship off the seabed in the Hebrides;
I am attending a Llama shearing course in Texas;
I am currently 26 days into a spiritual retreat in Tibet;
I am bog snorkeling and trying to get the toad out of my ear....

You have come so far and nowt wrong for having a really nice rebound fling even if it doesn't turn into a relationship.

Onwards and upwards!

Ah just been dumped by ‘lovely’ new man, in a restaurant of all places.
He did the whole it’s not you it’s me bullshit thing.

Onviously not as heartbreaking as what’s happened but feeling really sorry for myself. Off to have a good cry!

It definitely is not you. X

Sorry to hear this.

I'm never sure what's best, being dumped by message or in person.

He is a good man even though he has dumped you as he didn't ghost you and actually met up with you.

A fling is always good and this is all part of your healing journey 🌟

It's OK OP - he was just a practice run - a bit like the first job you get after you've left a job you were in for years - it's often the case that new job is a bit of a dud after a little while and you regroup and check out what else is out there. I think a lot of recruiters even acknowledge this!

Take some time out just for YOU, including things you've wanted to do/see/learn for years but didn't have the time, energy or brain space to do. Enjoy your friends and relax - see how the future unfolds without any cretins sullying the waters. 🌹

It’s a good way to see it, definitely. I was a bit gutted as I did like the bloke and enjoyed spending time with him. onwards and upwards though I suppose! :)

not sure if there are any legal bods on here but today I received another email from him saying he wants the dog. The dog that lives with me.

We got him together and both paid half each. Costs of expenses for the dog were split between us whilst we were still together. I am named on the microchip etc - he’s trying it on isn’t he?

Block the email, and just ignore him.

Don't respond, but please think about reporting him to the police for harassment. He's clearly taking huge amounts of whatever drugs his bloody kids are on.

He’s going to keep thinking of reasons to contact you to get some kind of response. He wouldn’t try and contact you at work would he?

Do you think he can be bothered contacting lawyers and taking you to court for the ownership of the dog?

Sounds like he is trying to get a reaction from you. Seriously consider changing all your contact details and deleting your social media accounts and create new ones (if you must have any social media accounts) with a generic photo so you can't be identified and possibly a different spelling of your first or last name so he can't search for you.

Not a legal bod but I'm under the impression that whoever is listed on the microchip is the owner.

When you bought the dog where did the money come from (cash, your account, his) and in whose name was the receipt issued? Same with any vet bills. Although I guess you could say his half was a gift - unless he can prove otherwise?

Did he contact you under a new email because if you've blocked the others it is now falling into harassment. If you haven't blocked then do it now. Please.

Ignore op. Only if a judge orders it do you hand that poor ddog over.. Keep receipts of everything you spend on ddog. Ask vet for copies of all appointments you have taken ddog to and copies of receipts.. Make up a file for ddog. Write a timeline of who cared for the ddog all along. He is just poking the bear op. Ignore and have a chuckle.

Also here to say ignore. He's trying to wear you down.
Hope you are ok. You have come so far.

Change your email, block him, and anything else report for harassment but KEEP EVERYTHING he has sent you

fucking loser

Gosh OP you have so much patience. Block him on everywhere and do not respond to anything.

If this is how he carried on with his ex no wonder they were so enmeshed.

He knows he's lost control of you, his constant badgering and telling you about other women hasn't worked so his next course of action to get you to engage is now the dog.

A letter from whom? If it's him ignore him, if it's a solicitor telling you he wants ddog ignore it. Only respond if you get an official court hearing, and only respond via the correct channels, not directly to him. Keep all documents etc. I'd also be tempted to change vets so your ex can't try to ring and change over the details to himself.

I was also under the impression microchip was who owned the dog.

He is so desperate for some attention from you.
Clearly you moving on has driven him mad.
Silence is so powerful.
Twats cannot bear to be ignored.
Bet he's loving having to deal with the feral children he raised, alone.

Continue living your best life and be so proud of yourself.

I agree with this and seconded re the vets.

He's obviously having a really shit time (that he's put on himself) and that's why he keeps trying to get you to reply. I'm embarrassed for him.

Stay strong OP. You're doing amazingly.

So I called the vets and he had been in touch about wanting to change the registered name to his, thankfully they told him they couldn’t without the registered owner’s (aka me) permission. They made a note of it on their system but never contacted me about it.

I do have a feeling the ex wife/one of his other girlfriends is pushing him regarding the dog, just have a funny feeling that’s why he’s done it. Either that or to seek my attention. If it wasn’t so shitty I would laugh!

Ignore him nevertheless. There's nothing he can do.