"You really don't like your step-children".....

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.... Is the new "people like you give step mums a bad name" / "you aren't their step mum you're their dad's partner" .

I've noticed it popping up more and more lately. Like the other two phrases it's a lazy to make the OP feel shame without having to actually address what they are saying.

So if its directed at you just roll your eyes and move on. No point even trying to respond to it.

I love this one.

Similar to "well what did you expect?"

Er, the parents to fucking parent their own children properly?

cuckypunt - absolutely right. Shame OP had to be so bitchy in response. 10yrs of marriage, 4 miscarriages and 2 DC I thought I had chosen well - sadly he changed into something i did not recognise and would never have picked if he had been like that from the start.

My DCS have had 2 SMs - one disaster and one brill. So it can be done and done v well with some realsitic expectations, goal setting and communication. Flet really sorry for SM2, who had to meet SM1 mother of Exs other DCs - and an absolute nightmare. She had obviously been told tales now 4 yrs down the line - we have a great relationship and none of the drama she gets from SM1.

Have never seen on this forum - "love them unconditionally" actually written - one of those MN myths. Sadly this is descending into a bitchfest against the EX - when most of the issues in blended families start with the man in the middle. Expectations form his DC and eX and his new family do not always make life eaasy