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Who get the bigger room!?

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Motherhood86 · 22/06/2023 20:38

To cut a long story short my partner and I have blended our families. I have 1 son 14 yrs and he has 1 son 13 yrs.
All lived together for about 6 months in 3 bedroom house, due to landlord selling house we have to temporarily move back to my old 2 bed flat.

My partner and I will sleep in living room, leaving larger bedroom which used to be mine and smaller one which was my Son's.

How do we decide who gets bigger room?

Just for context current house both the boys rooms are same size and also duration in flat shouldn't be much longer than 3 months.

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Motherhood86 · 23/06/2023 06:51

Yes both with us full time

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TeddyBeans · 23/06/2023 06:54

Nah, they share. You have the smaller room as long as it fits your bed

Doidontimmm · 23/06/2023 06:54

I’d say they share however one of them can use your room for chilling/watching tv if they want space?

MeridianB · 23/06/2023 11:10

Another vote for the boys to share the big room and you and DP have other bedroom. It’s not forever but sleeping in a living room is really grim and will make the whole place feel more cramped.

Blendiful · 23/06/2023 11:31

My DS and DSS share a room, they love it! Similar age difference to these. We have bunk beds and each has their own tv and games console and they share clothes space/drawers/wardrobe.

Reugny · 23/06/2023 12:02

If they get on and are both with you full-time then they should share a room.

skgnome · 23/06/2023 12:08

Can you fit your bed in the small room?
if so you take the small room and they share the large one
orherwise you son gets his old room and stepson the large one (if your son wants his old room)
or they toss a coin for the large room
but honestly, they share a room - they need space, there the living room, or go out for a walk

LetItGoHome · 23/06/2023 12:16

I'd get them to share especially since it's not forever. Is the larger room big enough to put some sort of temporary divide or curtain to make it feel like they have their own space within the room?

funinthesun19 · 23/06/2023 15:23

They should both share the bigger room. Two boys… very close in age… probably in to the same stuff and go to sleep at the same time. I’d have them sharing. I wouldn’t be sleeping the living room when sharing is a viable option.

inloveandmarried · 23/06/2023 15:50

You take the main bedroom and put bunks in the smaller room for six months. Then it's better for everyone.

Dododidi · 23/06/2023 16:20

Just get them to share and you have the other room? I wouldn't be sleeping in the lounge in this situation. It's temporary and they live together 100% of the time. They can share. Split the room with a curtain if you really have to.

Pkhsvd · 23/06/2023 19:48

Toss a coin; then no one can say that the other gets favourable treatment.

chocolatecheesecake · 23/06/2023 19:57

They can share and you have the other room. That way the living room stays as somewhere you can all relax together rather than everyone retreating to their bedrooms because the living room is full of your clothes, bedding etc

SparklyShark · 24/06/2023 01:28

Agree with PP, they share the big room, you and DP have a room. Living room so that you can have family time, and one or other boy can retreat to bedroom/living room for space.

namechangenacy · 24/06/2023 16:37

This is bonkers are you seriously suggesting two adults sleep in the lounge ?

So two boys don't have to share for a short period ?

Like what am I reading. I feel this maybe the tip of the dysfunction tbh.

Ponderingwindow · 24/06/2023 16:44

How long have they actually known one another? How long have you been married? I wouldn’t have them share unless they have a long-term relationship from early childhood.

if sons bedroom is already set up for him, then I would just move him back in.

summerlemonade · 24/06/2023 20:13

If you sleep in livingroom then I would take my son back to his bedroom.
If you want one of the rooms then take smaller and boys will need to share

Paddingtonsmarmlade · 24/06/2023 20:15

They share and you have the smaller room if you can fit your bed in.

CoopeyMum · 25/06/2023 17:25

Not having a living room would be pure disaster, I've just decorated my lounge and it was horrific!

You and your partner take the smaller room and get the boys to share the larger room. If needed add some kind of divide /screen etc

As you say, it's for a very short period of time.

GoodChat · 25/06/2023 17:57

I agree the boys need to share.

User565394 · 25/06/2023 18:02

I'm going against the majority here by saying the boys shouldn't share. Blending families is hard, don't make it harder if you dont have to. If they're getting on well right now I'd not want to rock the boat
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I'd ask them if they can sort out rooms between them, if not toss a coin for the bigger room.

Of course they might surprise you and offer to share?

And if it was a permanent thing they'd just have to share

Louoby · 26/06/2023 17:29

You have the main bedroom and the children share. No one needs to sleep in the living room. Plenty of children share.

poodlepuppy · 26/06/2023 23:01

What do the dc know so far?

Do they do things together? Like xbox or tv? Do they prefer their own space/ different tv etc?

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Motherhood86 · 27/06/2023 06:27

They are in to pretty much the sans stuff, gaming etc. They have knows each other around 8 years.

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2boysandagirltoo · 27/06/2023 07:35

Let them share the larger room, get a privacy screen

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