Huge differences in households how do you manage it?

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Nevergoingtowin · 01/06/2023 12:01

There is a massive difference in household income between DSS dad's house and his mum's.
This has never been an issue until recently when DSS's mum took a personal decision that didn't go favourably in terms of income. DSS is now struggling to visit us as he feels guilty of our 'life of luxury' versus his mum struggling and living hand to mouth. Giving more maintenance isn't an option. Any ideas on how to manage this?

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Nevergoingtowin · 07/06/2023 22:48

So no real solutions, just accept the way it is I guess. I feel for DH as he's the one suffering due to DSS's manipulation.
Thanks everyone for your input. I'm off to get ready for another day in hell work!

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RedRosette2023 · 08/06/2023 07:09

Honeychickpea · 07/06/2023 18:54

That ferrying around is a want, not a need though.
When I was that age I was only allowed to do activities that I could get to on foot, by bike, or by public transportation. It was the same for most of my friends.

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Me too - parents were at work not sitting around waiting to chauffeur.

RedRosette2023 · 08/06/2023 07:10

You can’t control another adult, so no, no solutions.

drpet49 · 08/06/2023 07:26

candlesflamesandbrooms · 01/06/2023 12:55

Er no - people forget that maintenance is to help with the child's living costs not mums. Mum needs to work more hours, not sacrifice her child's stable education.

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This. Mum clearly living beyond her means and taking the utter piss.

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