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Stepson sent me a ‘Mum’ message

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Rossisfinee · 31/03/2023 13:17

Been stepparent to my DSS for 3 years. The moment he sees me he talks and talks which I love as shows he’s comfortable and excited to share his life with me. Sometimes he will go “oh remember this?” but he is referencing an event years before I met him but I take it a compliment that it feels to him I’ve always been around.

The other day he randomly text me a ‘Mum quote’. Those types start “thank you for everything Mum” that you see on Facebook. I was so touched. 🥺

That’s all. Just really made me feel I must be doing something right. Please feel free to share your fuzzy stories! 🧡

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pilates · 31/03/2023 13:19

That’s nice - I’m sure it made your day and agree you must be doing something right. How old is he?

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Rossisfinee · 31/03/2023 13:21

It really did! He is 11 and I was really surprised at the bond given he was an ‘older’ kid when we met.

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Cotswoldmama · 31/03/2023 13:30

Aww that is so sweet, the best compliment!

Choconut · 31/03/2023 13:32

That is so lovely, you sound like a wonderful step mum!

Myamoth · 31/03/2023 13:48

Aww that's lovely! My now 18 year old DSS gave me a beautiful orchid for Mothers Day, I may have teared up a bit at that :-)

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Rossisfinee · 31/03/2023 14:45

Myamoth · 31/03/2023 13:48

Aww that's lovely! My now 18 year old DSS gave me a beautiful orchid for Mothers Day, I may have teared up a bit at that :-)

😭. I feel for you. I got flowers too. I cried and prob always will. 😂 I suffer recurrent miscarriage so the fact I’m thought of on Mother’s Day really tugs the heart strings as I’ll never be a ‘proper Mum’

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inamarina · 31/03/2023 15:29

Aww, that’s so lovely! You must be a wonderful step mum 🙂

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Rossisfinee · 31/03/2023 14:45

😭. I feel for you. I got flowers too. I cried and prob always will. 😂 I suffer recurrent miscarriage so the fact I’m thought of on Mother’s Day really tugs the heart strings as I’ll never be a ‘proper Mum’

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There's more to being a "proper mum" than giving birth. Sounds like you very much are a proper mum.

It's so lovely to here stories like this. I've been in my DSDs life since she was 3 and she can't remember life before me. She sometimes asks me questions about when she was a baby.

Dominoeffecter · 31/03/2023 15:35

Is his birth mum still around?

Ikilledthebabysharkdododuhdodudoo · 31/03/2023 15:54

Awwww love that!!!

mcmooberry · 31/03/2023 16:41

Aw that's a really lovely thing to share, sounds like he loves you and appreciates you too xx

WhatTheHeckyPeck · 31/03/2023 16:55

Mine used to do that as well. Me and her dad have been divorced for 20 years but she still sends me a card on Mother's Day. She lived with us 100% and stayed with me for 7 years after the divorce (her choice), so that probably made a difference.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 31/03/2023 16:59

He sounds lovely and it sounds like you've done a good job with him.

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Rossisfinee · 31/03/2023 17:06

Dominoeffecter · 31/03/2023 15:35

Is his birth mum still around?

Yes - born to be a Mum!

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Rossisfinee · 31/03/2023 17:08

WhatTheHeckyPeck · 31/03/2023 16:55

Mine used to do that as well. Me and her dad have been divorced for 20 years but she still sends me a card on Mother's Day. She lived with us 100% and stayed with me for 7 years after the divorce (her choice), so that probably made a difference.

Aw that’s so heartwarming 😭. I love stories like that.

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Laurdo · 31/03/2023 15:34

There's more to being a "proper mum" than giving birth. Sounds like you very much are a proper mum.

It's so lovely to here stories like this. I've been in my DSDs life since she was 3 and she can't remember life before me. She sometimes asks me questions about when she was a baby.

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Thanks for the kind words. That’s lovely. I wish I had known my DSC since they were that little.

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Backstreets · 31/03/2023 17:10

How lovely :)

blackbeardsballsack · 31/03/2023 17:32

Dominoeffecter · 31/03/2023 15:35

Is his birth mum still around?

Why do you ask?

Thelifeofawife · 31/03/2023 18:32

This is lovely!

My DSD is very talkative with me too. She will chat and tell me things she doesn’t tell her dad.

She talks about life before me, but I can only assume that it’s other people talking about it keeping it in her mind, as she would be too young to remember some things.

I recall the first time she referred to me as mum, and then said she has 2 mums. It was lovely. (Though as a general rule she calls me by my name)

Sorry to hear about your miscarriages, but it sounds like you’re being a “proper mum” with your DSC - they clearly feel that you are 💐

LighterNights · 31/03/2023 19:02

I think that's wonderful. Mine calls me 'other mother" it's music to my ears. Mum is still around and I'll never remotely take her place, but to have some recognition is a real compliment. Mum should be proud of the lovely person she has raised.

AllOfThemWitches · 31/03/2023 19:07

That's sweet, I like to think if my 11yo had a stepmum he'd feel as happy and comfortable with her.

LadyMargaretDevereux · 31/03/2023 19:15

Thank you for telling us about this op, it's such a happy moment for you and I loved hearing about it.

HappydaysArehere · 31/03/2023 19:22

Lovely to hear something that is good and happiness making. Of course you are pleased. Well done.

Myneighbourskia · 31/03/2023 19:41

That's lovely. You must be a fantastic step mum.

Gotafaceon · 31/03/2023 19:46

That's lovely. My stepdad is just as much of a dad as my birth dad. The more loving adults the better is how I saw things growing up.