DSC and gifts

[panko]

Bit annoyed because my DH knows I have got gifts to the DSC from me and our shared little one, we did this the last two years. And before that I've always got them a token sometning frlm myself. I asked him today what they'd got DC for Christmas and he just said nothing I didn't think it mattered.

I had to tell him it very much mattered, how are we all supposed to be equals in this family if Christmas just becomes about the older kids getting presents. I daren't even remind him they've got me something small every year too. Tbh they are old enough to sort it out themselves. I'm tempted to leave it and if nothing appears on Christmas day I won't bother next year and save myself the effort.

my children very much wanted to ensure they had presents to give to others at that sort of age so i don't think the OP wondering if it's even crossed their mind is that odd

mine would have been mortified to be given a present by a little toddler, never mind their sibling and have nothing g to give in return

i think you are right to be cross about this OP - the dad needs to step up and make sure he's instilling this

a toddler who idolises them and they haven't thought at all is hurtful - step siblings or not

My. step dad always bought me a present for Christmas and it always reinforced to me that we weren't a proper family, I was a 'token' family member. At my dad's house presents were from him and stepmum, even though I'd known her a lot less time than step dad.

You sound fab Op & trying your best. You have a dh problem.

It takes work, hard work to make a blended family work, you're putting in the hours, he isn't.

Have a strong word.

My God. How aggressive. Would you do that to your own 10 year old? "I didn't get you a present because you didn't give me one last year". Your dsc are Children and you are an adult!!

Yep, what she said