Christmas...always Christmas..

[IAmTi]

I hate that Christmas comes with another layer when it comes to blended family. DSC are annoyed coz I said the week before Xmas is a bit late to have tree put up so we'll put it up week before and leave their decorations to put on when they are here. They moan about it anyway so it will just make the whole thing easier.

Total non issue tbh.

Well yeah so why the drama? Just let me put the damn tree up!

Put it up then. It's not the end of the world. I don't see you need to give it a second thought to be honest.

@IAmTi surely you are seeing them between now
And the week before chrysalis

Christmas

What is their father suggesting as a solution?

I get it OP, it does always add more drama. But if you're seeing them now why not put it up now?

why is a week before Christmas too late?

If you only have them every other weekend , then just put it up tomo.

Aww do they want to join in putting up?

You live there. Put them up when you want. Give them a little bit of notice so they can come round if they want to. They can't control two houses.

A total pain in the arse, all of it. Shouldnt be, but is

They (the DSC) don't want to do it this weekend. As they "don't feel christmasmassy enough".

Need you ask?! It's already too late 😯

I'd just whack some Christmas music on and put it up today to be honest. Decorate when they're next with you if you dont have time today. That way they can't complain that they weren't there. If they don't join in, that's their choice.

They’ll feel much more in the Christmas mood when the trees are up would be my answer.

How old are they? If there’s nothing else planned, their dad should just say it’s happening now with them included or next week without them because the next time they come feels too long to wait. Tell them you’re excited to do it with them, make hot chocolate, stick the Xmas music on and all get on with it.

How old are they? If there’s nothing else planned, their dad should just say it’s happening now with them included or next week without them because the next time they come feels too long to wait. Tell them you’re excited to do it with them, make hot chocolate, stick the Xmas music on and all get on with it.

I agree with this. If they won't compromise and do it now then they're just being difficult and selfish.

Yes I agree this is exactly what he should do. But no.

This is why I get annoyed. Every time christmas comes round it's an overwrought exercise in trying to do exactly whay the DSC want down to the minorist of details.

Yes.

Thank you. I guess that's why I started this thread really. So I could vent about it.

If you reckon they are going to be whining either way, I'd please myself and leave them to it. At some point or other all children need to learn that everything is not about them.

No way I would wait until a week before Christmas. It's your house and you want to enjoy Christmas spirit for a bit longer than a week. I would decorate it today. If DSD dont feel like doing it, they don't have to help but I wouldn't let them dictate when you're allowed to have a Christmas tree at your house. Especially that they only visit every second weekend!

DSC, not DSD

Yeah DC is getting a bit older though so it would be nice if I could join in and have a nice time with them.

That’s a husband issue not a step kid issue, yet you didn’t mention your useless husband in your OP. Sometimes it makes sense or is nice to please the kids and do what they would like. In this instance, it makes sense to put the tree up whilst they’re here now. Tell your husband to use his brain and parent his kids.

Yes what @FallingsHowIFeel .

No reason except outdated tradition why tree shouldn't be put up this weekend. They would have soon started to feel Christmasy if presented with a hot chocolate and some Christmas tunes on. Simple act for DH to work out how many weekends there are until Christmas and determine that this is the obvious one for it to happen.

WTF?! They don’t feel Christmassy enough to put the tree up now and expect you to wait two weeks until they come back and decide it’s acceptable? Hilarious.

How old are they? Do you have other children?

And yes, you have a DH problem.