Xmas - is it reasonable for him to stay at his mum's and visit?

[LovelyBitOfSquirrel69]

22yo stepson left home for Uni 4 years ago. Doesn't come home much as it's a long train journey. For various reasons we no longer have a bedroom for him at our house but his mum lives only 20 mins away and he has a room there.

Am sure he'll be home for Xmas which is great, but I don't really want the chaos that comes with him sleeping on a sofa/mattress on the floor etc. Is it acceptable to have him come visit, have dinner etc etc and then have him sleep at his mum's where he has a bedroom?

I can’t cope with the thought of someone sleeping on a sofa/floor/whatever I know exactly what you mean.. especially at Christmas when it’s chaotic enough.
I think it’s reasonable to suggest he stays at his mums seeing as she’s only 20 mins away if you’re happy to do that. He might prefer that that too.. going back to his mums and seeing both parents rather than sleeping on sofa or wherever?

To add… I’ve just seen you said you’d sort a taxi for him. That’s fair enough too.
I really don’t see the issue with this, he’s an adult. If you had posted this without mentioning step child I think the answers would have been very different 🙄

I’ve just seen you said you’d sort a taxi for him. That’s fair enough too.

I think that’s reasonable

I really don’t see the issue with this, he’s an adult. If you had posted this without mentioning step child I think the answers would have been very different 🙄

Too right! Common sense goes out the window when you mention step children ……

Well it's all sorted now but thanks for the replies. He's staying at his mum's. And I'm pretty sure he's not traumatised by it.