Travel for contact

[Wombat100]

Does anyone know if the courts generally expect parents to share travel for contact?

By way of background - parents live about 25 mins apart from each other. The kids’ mum is saying that my DH (their dad) should do all driving for pick ups and drop offs. DH (and I, though that’s probably not relevant!) think mum and dad should share the driving equally, eg. she drops off and he picks up or vice versa.

Just wondered what the “standard” position is? Thanks :) x

It depends on what the contact pattern is too. And can't dad do some of the dentist appointments etc on his time with them?

My partner lives about 30 minutes from his ex and he does all the pick-up's and drop off's. He's never complained about this, mainly because she's absolutely terrible at time keeping and this keeps it in his 'control' for want of a better word. And as he doesn't do the mid-week school runs, seems only fair...

My ex lives 40 minutes away and does all drop offs and pick ups. He has contact EOW and enjoyed driving (he wfh) so works well for us.

I think it seems to depend on where you live as to whether you think that is far- my nearest full size supermarket is 25 mins away. I'm picking up my dd from the train station in a bit, 35 mins ... perspective is different.

Where it's 50/50 no maintenance then sharing is fair, where one parent has delegated most of their parenting then they should be picking up most of the time.

My exh gives me spousal maintenance voluntarily to make up for the fact I'm still housing and running around after our adult DD's. It's delegation, no reason why he couldn't house them

My partner's ex moved 3 hrs away without telling him. He has been through the courts to get access to his kids and the original order said to share the travelling. She was supposed to meet him halfway but a few months in she outright refused to do it. Came up with a number of excuses (no money, her partner needs the car, she has other kids). He took her back to court for this breach. They did not punish her, and they've now ordered my partner do all the travelling. It's incredibly unfair considering she chose to move and he is exhausted with all the driving. But the court didn't seem to care! My advice would be to try to negotiate as fair a deal as possible with the other person. Pick your battles. Also, if your partner has to drive a significant amount, CMS payments can reduce to account for some of the fuel cost (incidentally, my partner's ex went loopy when she found out CMS payments reduced. Even though it was due to her refusing to drive!).

Hi guys !!

wondering if you could please help me in giving me some advice. So me and my ex partner share a five year old together , and he sees my son every other weekend, i found out recently that i am travelling two hours and 45 minutes more then he does, i travel by public transport and he drives( which i know is’nt his fault i don't drive) but do i have the right in to going to court and find out exactly what os half way ? Thing is he will not tell me where he lives , so trying to fond out what is half way is really hard so not sure what best thing to do? Can anyone help and give some advice . Much appreciated thanks guys :-)

We bought a house near my DSS so we could share custody then his mum moved 45 minutes away so the court said it must be shared if my DH would be okay with that or she do it all, so I don’t think the ‘she does all the school runs’ thing was relevant in our case as, had she not moved, we would’ve been happy to share those.

Because as has been said in the post you quoted, the ex may be doing 90% of all the other running about if contact is only eow. Fuel costs therefore are very unfairly distributed.