My stepmum has always been jealous of me from when I was a child.
Not to say she hasn't helped me she has.
I didn't get on with her and we have had physical fights.
Let's just say when my dad, stepmum lived close to us she did help look after my son.
But then I would limit my contact with only saw my dad really. She is a very negative person.
Then my dad, stepmum moved last year away. But they live in a nice area now and near the beach.
My dad still hides giving me money me still. He booked accommodation and I was meant to pay him back well he said he pay half. He understands I don't work much and I would give him if I could.
My OH had noticed how she was and she keep watching my OH he does eat a lot. But I even was left with her myself. I still feel uneasy about conversations with her when no one around she can be really nosey.
I am 39 at this point I actually had enough of her bs growing up with her. I sat there while my OH, son, brother and dad went out. It was how is so and so a friend of mine. I thought why ask for this person if you don't really like her as to how she planned something for me. That's another long story.
That was my cue let me go for a walk can't sit here being asked many questions etc. So asked how do I get to these shops she said wait until my dad back. So I just said going for a walk found my own way to a shop and she did know where I was going.
I actually phoned my dad when I got there to pick me up on his way back.
In the car he made out my stepmum didn't know where I was going. Well she did as she wouldn't tell me how to get to a shop just said wait your dad will take you. I wasn't sitting with her being asked all sorts
I didn't cause much of seen in the car as the my brother, son and OH was there. But was like here we go.
We had to go somewhere so he dropped us all there and he went back and got her. It's obvious words were spoken by dad, stepmum.
I sat on the bench and she did ask so did you get what you wanted at this place didn't cause a scene. It was all left and blown over.
I noticed when my son went to go out with my dad somewhere she was trying to push my brother whom an adult to go. He did want to go but he wasn't actually bothered he was busy in his room.
Apart from that weekend was fine.
My issue is now that I am pregnant my dad and stepmum don't know yet. In fact my own mum don't know yet.
So I have planned on telling my dad he can tell my stepmum actually can't deal with her negative comments. Although my mum might be the same too.
My stepmum already had said about someone we know having a baby saying I couldn't have a baby now.
There is a lot with my stepmum but tbh glad they no longer live near by.
I just speak to my dad and do ask for her. I chat with my own mother every day.
Just wondering what she going to be like now I am pregnant.
My son is going to stay this week and he is happy I am having a baby.
I do hope she doesn't say something and he hates the fact I am pregnant. Just try make him feel he be left out etc.
She can be very nasty and always been jealous of me because she wanted a girl. I worry if I have a girl now how she will be but glad they have moved away.
I am trying not to think of it.
Even my OH said he didn't want her to know yet but because my son going there I have to tell them. He too excited at the moment to finally be have an older brother.
What would you do? Although nothing much she can say or do. Or me really just get on with my life got my mum and dad so really there reaction only thing I should care about.
Anyone still have a nightmare with their step parent even as an adult?