Birthday parties? Who goes?

[Itsbeen84yearss]

When your stepchildren have big birthday parties do you go along with your partner/ husband to the party?

@mummytotwoboys0600 so the OP should go to a place so she can be abused in front of her children and her step-children?

Because that is what you are suggesting.

While you may be use to dealing with reasonable people some of us aren't.

[quote RedMarauder]@mummytotwoboys0600 so the OP should go to a place so she can be abused in front of her children and her step-children?

Because that is what you are suggesting.

While you may be use to dealing with reasonable people some of us aren't.[/quote]
If you read op posts, you will see she gets on well with the step children. As for the mother, I'm sure she will be on her best behaviour in front of her friends and family. Show a united front and don't let people bully you into staying away 🤷🏻‍♀️

If my children were going an the abusive ex was there plus I had contributed I absolutely would be going. If the ex can't stop herself behaving like an animal, that is on her, not you.

You shouldn’t go

@mummytotwoboys0600 you presume but I know personally this isn't always the case.

There is a difference in turning up when the child involved is a teen or adult than when they are a primary aged kid.

Separate celebrations are usually best unless the split is really amicable. It’s unusual for half siblings to attend unless part of the main household from what I’ve seen. They usually have a separate event.

We had a party for my 2 youngest, me and DH were there, along with their dad and step mum. It prompted my DSS to say how his mum and dad couldn't be in the same room like that. It broke my heart...I arranged a party on his next birthday and invited his mum. Now DH and his ex have a terrible relationship but she did come. It was nice to see DSS celebrate his birthday with both his parents