AIBU - washing

[IWasBornInAThunderstorm]

I told DH I was fed up of doing their washing as work's got busier so I don't have time to help out with it. He said that's fine I'll do it - can you remind me. No, because that just makes it my mental load. So.. DSC arriving tonight and he still hasn't twigged that he hasn't done it!

Am I being really mean to not remind him? I feel like if I do then I'm only enabling his uselessness.

[quote everythingbutthesink]@aSofaNearYou
Please don't jump to the conclusions he just sits their and does fuck all
He worked nights. I worked days, he came home as I left for the school run and work. he slept whilst kids were at school then would pick them up. Do homework, clubs if they had any on, do tea and then bath and bed. Would occasionally do a wash but I preferred to do it when I got in so I could put my clothes in to!
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I'm not assuming that, that's why I asked. Comparatively, OPs DH is just not pulling his weight.

Wouldn't it just be simpler to make a list of tasks to be done and assign them to one or the other of you.

Even with a cleaning lady, I had to discuss the tasks that I expected to be done. She had input as well in telling me what she would charge to do the things that I required. She also has input in how things should be modified as we move along.

It seems that OP's husband has some trouble prioritizing but he might be helped by having a posted list that includes a timeline for completion.

I don't know that he should not remember on his own, but the real question is does she want to be right or does she want a solution to the problem?

A multitude of us agreeing that she is right to be annoyed may bring feelings of personal vindication but does little to resolve her issue.

It seems that OP's husband has some trouble prioritizing but he might be helped by having a posted list that includes a timeline for completion. I don't think this would help.

I'm going to get him an Alexa for Christmas so problem solved. :)

@IWasBornInAThunderstorm
Using Alexa as a reminder sounds like a terrific idea.

I refuse to do my stepson's washing. He puts his clothes straight in the wash exactly how they were removed from his body. Trousers inside out and with the pants attached to them. I ain't touching that shit!