Evil Stepmum’s Greetings Card Collection

[KumquatSalad]

Here on stepparenting, we are developing an exciting new range of greetings cards to help express your feelings to the evil stepmother in your life.

Come share your designs with us. There’s a large untapped market out there to be captured. 😁

@maudspellbody I'm so sorry your poor DM had to deal with that. Wills and inheritance do bring out the very worst in people, and anyone not directly bloody related gets treated like they were never part of the family.

My DMil recently re-wrote her Will and asked me to check the draft provided by her solicitor (I am a Wills lawyer). She specifically named her grandchildren to inherit, so if DP and I have children, they will not be included. I spoke to DP and told him the Will could include the provision 'and any other grandchildren of mine living at my death'. He spoke to her and she got really narky saying that my children shall not inherit from her because I will be getting everything from my DP and thus his children will miss out. Entirely wrong, as we will have Trusts in our Wills to ensure all children inherit, not just me and mine.

I generally advocate that no one is entitled to an inheritance and they should be grateful for what they get, but the deliberate exclusion of my future children felt quite harsh!

Anyway, sorry, totally derailed the thread! Back to the cards!

If DH were to die while the DSC are still children, then I dread to think the crap that’ll come at me from his ex and MIL. He’d better not die until he’s properly old!
Get life insurance ASAP! I told DH there’s no way I’d be marrying him and buying a house with him without it, because there’s no way I’d be selling my home to give DSD her inheritance if he died prematurely.
The whole hefty deposit came from me anyway but even if it didn’t, it would be a horrible position to be left in.

@MyGodImSoYoung why on Earth did she ask you to check over her will then, was she just trying to make a point?

Sorry! De-railed

Back to the brilliant cards.

How about: Happy Father's Day to my boyfriend of 3 months who treats my children as his own (but never Mother's Day to the ex's second wife, who is an irrelevance)

@aSofaNearYou I honestly don't know. She is a bit odd with some things. I don't think she necessarily intended to make any kind of point, but she doesn't like to be wrong so almost refused to listen to DP and I on principle.

I expect she just wanted me to check it was properly drawn up and legal, rather than wanting my comments on its contents. Although that's why I mentioned it to DP (he was also asked by DMil to read the draft), because I thought it might seem better coming from him. Apparently not!

@maudspellbody

How about: Happy Father's Day to my boyfriend of 3 months who treats my children as his own (but never Mother's Day to the ex's second wife, who is an irrelevance)

yes there's a lovely double standard there isnt there!

Me and dp have been together 8 years, ex says i am a "nobody" to her child whe actually lived with us FT for two of those years and kicked off like fuck when i met him after about 9 months. Dp had been honest with her, told her about me, told her he was going to introduce me to dss, how long it had been etc.

She introduced her boyfriend after about a week, and he stayed over regularly. She did not tell dp, and still to this day hasn't - dss dropped it into conversation.

@KumquatSalad

Oh. I’m glad to see that, despite my not making it clear enough in the OP, this thread is now something people get.

This is the card I think my MIL wanted to send me when we got married.

I don't have SC but I am a second wife. I started a trhead years ago about things people say and assume about second wives (it was lightnearted!) but got my arse handed to me.

anyway- on the subject of this card... when we got married my PIls said they would not bother with a wedding present because they bought one ' the first time round'

(I wasn;t the OW by the way... always feel the need to include that bit!).

Oh the card pic did not post; It was the card posted that said 'remeber you will always be the second wife'.

DH was with bis ex for 3 years includindg 12 months of marriage. We have been married 17 years and together 22. But we still have friends of his who refuse to acknowledge me in any way shape or form (including missing me on christmas cards and addressing them to DH and the DCs only).

@TwoHundredThousandTimes
They are no friends of his if they treat his wife like that
The whole “only the second wife” thing always makes me chuckle. Why would anyone be jealous of the first wife? By definition that marriage went down the toilet. You could argue back “always remember you’re the messy first attempt/ the one he didn’t want/the one he couldn’t be bothered trying enough for” etc etc etc but why would you? What’s the point in engaging if you’re happy in your marriage anyway?

@Youseethethingis

If DH were to die while the DSC are still children, then I dread to think the crap that’ll come at me from his ex and MIL. He’d better not die until he’s properly old! Get life insurance ASAP! I told DH there’s no way I’d be marrying him and buying a house with him without it, because there’s no way I’d be selling my home to give DSD her inheritance if he died prematurely. The whole hefty deposit came from me anyway but even if it didn’t, it would be a horrible position to be left in.

Oh. We have life assurance. And I’d inherit the house and everything in his will anyway. I wouldn’t disinherit his children in the future, because that’s not fair.

But I guarantee both his ex and MIL would be livid that it’s not going straight to his ex the DSC.

Sure it’s half my house. I paid the whole deposit and contribute to the mortgage. But I’m only the second wife. And our baby is just a child of a second family. So we shouldn’t matter. 🤷🏻‍♀️

*You could argue back “always remember you’re the messy first attempt/ the one he didn’t want/the one he couldn’t be bothered trying e

It’s going well today. 😂

Anyway @Youseethethingis, that is always what I think. First means nothing unless you are the current and only. Otherwise, it’s a failed relationship. Why would you be acting like that’s something wonderful.

I’m not about to look back at my first boyfriend (aged 15) and insist that was in fact the most important relationship of my life.

I just remembered another one that gets thrown at us here:

I wish this thread and you lovely lot had been around when I was in the thick of it. I wouldn't have felt so alone

Here's one which will tie in with the subjects of wills and inheritance: said to me by EW

Your child will be stealing from my children's inheritance

@UsernameFail

I wish this thread and you lovely lot had been around when I was in the thick of it. I wouldn't have felt so alone

It's such a lonely place to be isn't it. Glad it sounds like you're through it now.

Here's one which will tie in with the subjects of wills and inheritance: said to me by EW

Your child will be stealing from my children's inheritance

This is horrendous! What a cowbag.

“DSDs mum will be furious when she finds out you’re not leaving your money to DSD”

Eh, I’ve got my own child to provide for DH, if you or your ex want DSD to inherit something you can sort it between you.

Still feel a little insulted he thought his ex gfs feelings would have any bearing on my financial arrangements to provide for my son on my death - and who’s telling her anyway?

@MyCatHatesEverybody

I just remembered another one that gets thrown at us here:

“You sound awful. I’m so glad my children don’t have a stepmum”

So agree!
Particularly some of the stepmothers on this thread.

These made me laugh. I do not miss the 'you knew what you were getting into' brigade. Soooo fucking rude and ridiculous.

@theemmadilemma

These made me laugh. I do not miss the 'you knew what you were getting into' brigade. Soooo fucking rude and ridiculous.

But true.

@Coronawireless I'm just glad my DSC's mother isn't as bad as some of the people who throw this kind of shit at step parents.

“You sound awful. I’m so glad my children don’t have a stepmum”

I think this one is actually a big part of the problem.

Women in marriages with DC, who maybe are going through a rough patch, look at SMs and are scared. Their existence is proof that marriages can fail and their own DH could, theoretically, meet someone else and have a second family.

The whole idea that people sometimes do that is scary, so they paint SMs as evil family breakers (regardless of the actual situation).

I think that is a lot of what the SM hate is about.

@MyCatHatesEverybody

Cathartic isn't it *@SpongebobNoPants*!

I'll add my one from the other thread:

Absolutely brilliant