I have been with partner 3 years and we have had so many ups and down. We have struggled a lot with bringing both our families together.
My daughter was 9 when we met and his children - daughter 3 and son 1.
The age difference alone between the children was hard but we have managed over time slowly being the children together but I can't stop feeling angry towards the children's mum. It's the one thing that keeps coming back up and making us argue.
She has always tried to cause trouble between me and my partner and she clearly told him that when they finished their relationship, that she would always do that.
She has always used the children as weapons. She even stopped him seeing the children just because she wasn't getting her own way all the time.
It went all the way to court, 7 months later and over £1000 down, for the judge to basically laugh at the whole situation and say why have you stopped him seeing the children when he hasn't done anything wrong at all. She even tried to say he could see the kids again but not when I was around. For no reason at all but other than to break us up. The court disagreed as I had done nothing wrong but it seemed to break us up over time anyway as I just resented any time he got a message of her or caused us problems. I know it wasn't his fault but I couldn't cope with my feelings towards her and I couldn't act like she didn't exist because she will always be there.
Anyway we broke up for about 2
Months and in that time they have had time to heal wounds and seem to get on fine now... which I am very happy about in the sense of the kids... as everything's going to plan that he's allowed to see them on the days suppose to but since I've come back in the picture I still hate her for everything she's done. I hate that she's sneaky, she still thinks she has control over him, she still rings him and says the kids want to speak to him, she messages (mostly pictures) from what I know anyway. My partner hides most
Information probably because he's worried il get angry at him and that's sad he has to feel like that but I also can't help how I feel.
She angers me so much.
Am I just being a horrible person and too sensitive. Do I need to consider leaving our relationship if I can't get over it or should she still be ringing and messaging. Any advise how I control my feelings.
I want to all act for the best for the kids but never feel it is with her.