Joint presents

[MrsMigginsTheOriginal]

How normal is it for divorced parents to give their late teen children joint birthday and Christmas gifts ? This has only started this year after 4 years divorce ? This is our first Christmas together in our new home.

Joint presents - nope, not in my experience, DH and I buy gifts from us and and their mother buys gifts from her and her partner. Never even suggested a joint gift.

I would NEVER allow my husband's ex in my home, not in a million years.

sotired this isnt something that needs to happen though is it?

Surely if the desperately want to share the present, then open in a coffee shop or pub.

Can you tell us what the present is? If it's going halves on a laptop, fair enough. If it's going halves on a pair of slippers, it's just an excuse to pester DH.

All about the context here.

We are doing it but straight away ... I want my kids (adults) to see their parents can get along, coordinate gifts etc and it prevents oneupmanship with gifts. I've also bought a gift for my ex, and I've bought a gift for my new partners ex. We are all being adults! (No affairs simply long marriages, got bored then met afterwards)

lifeisgoodagain you're doing joint gifts for....adults?

that is weird!

Very common between my exh and I. There have been larger joint gifts (as the children are getting to that age) and neither of us are interested in outdoing one another or having spoiled children who would like us to outdo one another.

That being said I am amicable with my exh. And I wouldn’t expect my partner to spend the amount of money my exh and I have spent on our children’s gifts. In the same way that I don’t spend large sums of money on gifts for his children. But he does from time to time.

My exh has never come into my house to see the children open their present. Likewise I’ve never entered his house to do the same. We are both more than content with a video of the present opening.

I don’t think there is anything inappropriate about that. Boundaries are a good thing.