IS this thread for real? I mean seriously? There are at least two threads a week on his board, quite seriously flaming SP’s (or non official SP’s because only use that term if you’re married, otherwise don’t) for being too involved in children’s lives. Because we’re constantly reminded the children aren’t yours. Back off. Let the mother and the father deal with it.
Fine. Agreed. It’s the exact reason I won’t be caught dead at any of my DO’s DC’s school events as an example.
However we now have this thread which seems to state, that it is the SM’s responsibility to pick up the slack of something happens to her DH/ DP? Well, isn’t that a convenient about face?
Please don’t overstep your boundaries and over parent a child that isn’t yours. Oh, except when it comes to money. Hand that over please, I don’t care where that comes from.
Let me make one thing clear. My DC are my priority. My DP’s DC are his and his EW’s priority.
If anything happened to my DP and that impacted the maintenance he paid the ex, hell would freeze over before i picked up any of it.
I would absolutely pay for food, clothing and anything else they needed when in DP’s care. But maintenance? Not a chance.
I’m stretched covering what I cover already, with no maintenance received from my exH as we are both relatively self sufficient. But that means my finances are stretched tight and out of that maybe I can/ can’t afford holidays.
So in the scenario that my DP couldn’t pay maintenance and I could afford a holiday with my Dc. Would I forgo the holiday? Not. A. Chance.
Now I will say, my Dp’s Ew does not need the maintenance. So that probably helps me with that assurity.
But the posters on these boards need to figure out what they want from step parents in their DC’s lives. Because I for sure am never becoming a cashpoint for the my DP’s DC when they aren’t with him.