Help! new SM and want to run!

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31 year old. To marry father (37) of 7 year old girl....and going CRAZY.
Bf and I are perfect together - except for this one thing - DSD.

It seams a 100 times a day I think
"I can do this- Do it for him" - then...
"I can't do this! I'm going crazy"

I can't handle the resentment, the loss of control of my life, heartbreak and pain. I love this man, he's the best I've ever had, but what do I do?
I used to cry a lot. Now I've gone from sad to angry.
Angry that he can't stand up to his ex. Angry that DSD rules his life completely. Angry he can't stand up to his daughter and stop parenting out of guilt. All conversations are about her.

I feel like the outsider. I am his nanny by day. Sex toy by night. He gets everything he wants. I asked for one Sunday together every 5 weeks. I asked for that one day where I get him alone and he snaps "You want me to disown my daughter!" Just cos I asked for a day. (He has her thur, fri, sun, mon)

I've stopped fighting now. Given up asking for what I want.
We are going to counseling soon. I don't think he'll ever change.
Help

I am a step mum to 15yr old and 11 yr old but on the scene from 6yr and 2yr. The eldest one hated me at first but now we are good, youngest one loved me but now hates me and yes it’s a girl. If I knew what was ahead of me when I started out I would have never got involved. Sometimes it’s the kids that cause the problems but mostly it’s their mother.

If you are questioning it now I think you should break it off. I questioned it broke up and we got back together married for 6 yrs have our own kids. Would I do it again? No as much as I love DH

I think you are making the same mistake many women make when they are meeting a men with children (and vice versa). You are separating the person he is with and without his child, and deciding on whether he is a perfect partner based on one without the other.

As others have said, if him being a father is causing you many issues, then he just isn't your dream man because you can't take that away from the person he is.

It would be like saying that you found the perfect job in every way, great responsibilities, great pay, great benefits, great time, but it is 2 hours commute which is causing you a lot of issues, but hey, without the commute, it would be the perfect job, so you ask your boss if you can work from home some days and they tell you it's not possible because of the requirement of the job, and you get frustrated because you are trying to ignore the fact that the job does come with the commute.