Sorry this is so early to be discussing Christmas but we have the same argument every year about present buying and I want to know who you think is being unreasonable.
DH has 2 dc both teenagers now and we have one ds together. Every year he spends around 200/300 on his dc presents, buying laptops or the latest games console etc. Now I wouldn't have a problem with this is he contributed to our ds presents but he doesn't. I have to start saving in September to buy all his Christmas and birthday presents (ds birthday before payday in Jan) and split the pile in half, I usually spend around 250 in total.
I think that he should contribute to all three childrens presents, he thinks that I am doing it anyway and only have to buy for one I am being unfair to expect him to help, as he has more children. I honestly don't see why instead of spending £300 on each dc, he can't spend £250 on the two older dc and give me £100 towards ds, as he is younger and doesn't need as much.
This turns into a row every year, as he then spends at least anther 100 on their birthdays and ds gets nothing from him for either.
Our finances aren't joint, all bills are split equally except for childcare as I earn more and pay for that but once that has been paid for, I have not that much left over.
Am I being selfish in thinking he should help? The argument has been going on so long now that I'm not so sure anymore.