So I snapped with their mum

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OK I know I was an idiot but I am so sick of always being in the wrong with my dscs dm.

That bloody woman has let herself into my house again this morning and not even bringing the kids in as we collected them yesterday. Dss was meant to return all the borrowed items for his dofe exhibition yesterday, Dp asked for the. As they were t with everything else. Dss says mum wouldn't let him bring them. Wtf??? They were borrowed from a friend of mine so not her decision. It the. Turns out she has t unpacked or washed them. Dp said fine, drop them off at ours and wheres will sort it.

She must have appeared whilst the kids were walking the dogs (having left the bloody door unlocked which I have dealt with) and I was as hanging washing out, so she has let herself in and dumped the stuff in then Hall. No phone call, text nothing. She has my number, my car was on drive, she knows my phone details and both the kids b have phones.

I have seen red and sent her a text. It wasn't rude and wasn't sweary hence and not calling her as I wasn't sure my temperature would hold. Text says she is never to enter my house again without invitation.

Dp is asleep as he was on nights do only got home at 7am. She hasn't replied to me but I suspect the will have a go at him.

I have no idea why I am posting, I warned Dp to deal with her after last time and I am fairly sure he hasn't. But I did tell hi. If it happened again I would not hold my tongue.

So how much shit am I gonna be on do we think?

Because allegedly her hair dresser told her there is no point. The woman is utter unhinged.

Our HV has previously involved the school nurse team who I believe had words which sorted for a bit but she is back to being idle again. She wanted us to report to SS as a neglect case but I felt a) that was a tad extreme as they have far bigger problems to deal with and b) it would risk us lookingike the bitter ex and be ignored anyway

The kids are 11 & nearly 14 but terrified of voting with their feet although I suspect it will come. Especially as dsd (11) has already shown a very fiesty streak when her mum has said no to things she wants to do.

Couldn't the nurse report it to SS? In fact, it might be worth talking to her because if she does anyway, you need to have some trail of what's going on or the mother will somehow put it all on you guys.

To have lice (if they're crawling on their face, that's life, the nits are the eggs) that bad is utterly horrific. What about taking them to the dr to get it documented there too? Maybe the dr can prescribe something - really don't know - but this is horrific and waaaaaay over the line of thinking she has the right to enter your house (Im with you entirely on that one).

*lice, not life!

At 14 and 11 they are easily able to deal with the nits themselves. How often are they with you? And to be fair the hairdresser may have meant there's no point in using lotions as the lice get immune to them. Treating them is different to dealing with them, but if she's not dealing with them, then you/your dp and the dc can.

I have told Dp that he needs to grow a pair and deal with it. That if she continues to neglect the kids that he is to refuse to return them and we will see her in court. Sounds extreme I know but this has been going on for years.
Total over reaction! And no, a judge wouldn't remove a child from care just over nits instead, they would ask why dad isn't doing anything about it himself. Her hitting the roof if he does? So what, when it's done, it's done.

Seriously swing you are not qualified to comment. You have no idea on the history or the reasons for the neglect issues. I said she goes mad, I didn't say we dont do it so please keep you negative comments to yourself