I'm not after advise, just a place to vent to people who understand.
My DP and I had discussed Xmas presents for his kids. He'd said he'd agreed that the main present would come from ExW and himself and that he and I would get presents for the DSC and so would ExW and her partner.
So I've been looking out for presents and buying them. Only bought 2 for each child so far so nothing extravagant but I was excited about what I had bought and giving them to the kids.
Now DP tells me that ExW wants all the presents to be from both parents and partners and DP has agreed to this.
I feel this means I've now paid for presents that are going to be from everyone. I'd also bought things to be used at our house and now as they are from everyone, this might not be the case.
I understand now that I shouldn't have got so involved, they aren't my kids and it's not up to me to choose and buy the presents, but this was done with DPs agreement. I'm just feeling a little down as I was excited about Christmas and giving them the presents that I'd spent time thinking of and getting things that they would love. I know it's not about me and the kids will still get the lovely presents I bought.