ExH new partner.....

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My exH and I split up 6 years ago. I have had a new partner for 3.5years (we don't live together) he has had one for 2.5 years and has just moved in with her and her 4 children (2.5hrs drive away)

We have two DS together (11 & 6) and up until 3/4 months ago had an amicable relationship. We would go to parents evening, school plays together, he would pop in and chat about the boys when dropping them off etc. Now the relationship has broken down. His new GF wants to arrange all contact and arrangements and he now never responds to my texts/calls and will only ever speak to me if he's driving home from work or if she is not there. I collected my DS's from him yesterday and text to see if he was at the meeting place, but she responded from her phone, he also asked me to text her when arranging collection this weekend, my response was, 'Why would I do that when I can text you?'. Apparently she has no relationship with her ex and therefore doesn't like ours. She has also asked him to start making separate appointments for parents evenings etc. It's really, really frustrating and I'm tempted to tell him to grow a pair.... My partner would never dream of acting like this and he also has two DS's with his ex. I just don't get why she feels the need to take over?? he has admitted she hates the fact we have any history and is jealous but FGS sake we're all mid 40's can't we all just grow up a bit!

Also, if you look a few posts back, I went some way to say we would probably disagree and I understood why - how is that 'not allowing' people to disagree with me?

My only issue with your posts is you felt the necessity to accuse me of moral superiority and 'laugh' - had you addressed me rather than speak of my situation like it somehow amused and/or offended you, perhaps this 'disagreement' would have been less about you assuming I'm angry, controlling and unable to accept people disagreeing with me, and more like accepting our differing opinions

The woman is a loon- and as is often the way- she's found a weak man to manipulate.

Stand your ground op.

FFS - for the last time and try reading rather than getting on your high horse.

DPs ex told DSS about me, because she noticed DP tagging me in a cinema visit early on in our relationship. She decided to tell DSS of my existence, not DP. From then on, DSS kept asking DP and DPs ex about me, resulting in DP and ex formulating and agreeing to an early meeting.

You're right missy, your DP's ex's behaviour is awful. Yours is possibly marginally less awful.

LOL.

Sorry again OP - apparently you've been misguided in your opinion of me being a balanced, ideal step parent because Castaunder thinks I'm bonkers (in the nicest possible way ).
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Castaunder -* tried to explain my POV after your questions but all I've had is insults and passive aggression. Not going to bother engaging with you anymore because you've clearly made your mind up about who and what I am, it's a shame you choose to be sacrimonious, but fortunately you're not my DSS's Mum so I don't have to deal with your 'drop insults and run' attitude.

I do not mean this with any respect and do agree that this sudden change is weird and you have every right to be annoyed, but have you considered that your ex may actually prefer not having contact with you and find it easier to go through a third party? Is it really all down to her? I know for a fact I'd see hell over before being responsible for arranging pick ups and communicating with my DP's ex as that's responsibility I shouldn't have to deal with so I find it hard to see why this woman would want to take charge of that x.x

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