OMG op, why on earth are you allowing yourself to be treated so utterly appallingly, disrespectfully and like a doormat?
NO WAY should you be cooking, cleaning and being treated so badly when you are being kind and considerate but nobody cares about you and takes you for granted!
And then you get called heinous names and it's like it has little effect on you, why? Is it because you are so used to being badly treated?
Your treatment is terrible because you allow yourself to be treated terribly. If I had been called a NASTY BITCH that would be IT and a complete deal breaker. But then I would NEVER be doing all someone else's cooking, cleaning etc and I have NEVER been called the names you have.
You don't respect yourself op. If you don't respect yourself you can't expect to receive any. That has to change. Stop pandering.
I would never in a million years want to spend a moment's time with a partner with such a misogynistic attitude. No wonder his first partner didn't want to put up with that. I woud revisit why he calls her names too, it sounds as if he is good at being a lazy, abusive crap father who is used to putting others down in a self righteous way.
He's doing your head in. Think about your mental health op, you are in a downward spiral here and thank god you've posted on here so we can point out the RED flags that are waving all around.
Sorry op but he must have seriously ground you down for you not to notice the red flags, not to act on them and are prepared to be a downtrodden doormat as a role model for how a female should be treated by such little children.
The way you cling on to his little nuggets of praise is pitiful when you look at the wider picture of how they all treat you.
You can change all that. You can have a lovely life with people who treat you kindly and with consideration. Don't settle for anything less.
Good luck op, today's a new day! Don't doubt yourself! Take steps straight away to get a beautiful life you deserve. You only live once, you have no dc, you only rent so please don't entrap yourself into a life of skivvying and being badly treated! No man truly loves a partner by treating her so badly and with no respect so you should be questioning that too.