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A safe place to rant

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 20:56

I'm loosing hart with SP board. I think, like Fenton, I may take a back step. SM's come here for a safe place to rant. To say things they can't in RL. Sometime they know it's not great what they are saying, sometimes they don't, myself included and are looking for guidance. But the one thing they don't need is up themselves people bashing them and being generally unhelpful and downright mean. People who I suspect have a reason to think all SM's home wreckers. People fall in love and no one knows what the future will hold. Rant over

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 23:13

But being the OW still has more stigma? True?

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SidandAndyssextoy · 15/03/2014 23:19

Have any of you ever used the British Second Wives Club board? You have to pay a small amount to post but it's a truly safe space. It preserved my sanity a few years ago when things were very, very tough.

Pasithea · 15/03/2014 23:22

OW. If we slip and say bio mum all hell breaks lose! I'm sick of the double standards! I'd love to and shame! I'd also love to go on LP and say to that mum who is bitching about what a pice if shit her ex is "well, you knew what you were getting in to when you married him!" Grrrr

Go on then TheMumsRush. Dare ya it's a free world

FrogbyAnotherName · 15/03/2014 23:23

I'd also love to go on LP and say to that mum who is bitching about what a pice if shit her ex is "well, you knew what you were getting in to when you married him!" Grrrr

I did that once Blush

Pasithea · 15/03/2014 23:24

SidandAndyssextoy No I haven't heard of that one.

brdgrl · 15/03/2014 23:25

See, pasithea, you are making deliberately goady posts. That's not meant to be allowed here, is it? I'd report it, but actually, I think it shows up exactly what OP is talking about...

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cinnamongreyhound · 15/03/2014 23:26

I joined mn as a step mum with no other children. I got some good advice but then all of a sudden using the term BM meant people were getting ripped to shreds! Really? It's a differentiation between birth mother and step mother, a label that's all.

I also agree about the assumption you much be the other woman. Tbh even if you were the other woman that doesn't mean that you won't be a good stepmom or that you don't deserve some help in a bloody difficult situation. If you have been hurt in the past by your ex having an affair and have a think against step mums why go to the step parenting forums?

I rarely post anymore as after 9 years as a step mum I have learned to deal with most things dh ex wife throws at us. I have learned not to stress as much but it's still tough at times. It is a shame that you can't just come for advice or even to let off a little steam as until you've done it you have no idea! I love my dh soooo much and never want to be without him but I'm not sure I would have go involved with him in the first place if I had known how tough it would be. I now have 2 beautiful boys who love their big brother to bits.

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 23:27

Yes it is a free world, but what help would that be to her? What help ar
e you being now?

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 23:30

Cinn, glad to hear it :).

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 23:35

Don't think I can post links from my pad but this was one of the first threads I read. I thought "that can't be true of a support sight?" Oh how wrong I was

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Pasithea · 15/03/2014 23:35

Probably not , but some are so over the top in dissing their XH and or their XH current partner or indeed their current partners. They seem to forget that they loved them enough to create a child at some point.

It is also a one sided argument. We will never know the other side of it

brdgrl · 15/03/2014 23:35

it posted, mums!
i liked fenton.

Pasithea · 15/03/2014 23:36

Can't copy and paste it is it bad.

brdgrl · 15/03/2014 23:36

I'm surprised you are so familiar with it all, after only a few days on MN.

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 23:41

I can't believe I'm where Fenton was. I never thought it possible. I didn't think other mums could be so horrible. The amount of posts where I see the op say in her first post " I'm not the OW"! Like they are ready for the question

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 23:43

Can't copy and paste it is it bad.

What do you mean?

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Pasithea · 15/03/2014 23:44

I also can't believe that all OW are responsible for they're partners marriage break up.

MarvellousMabel · 15/03/2014 23:45

I really appreciate my DCs step mum. I don't see much of her but I'm really grateful for her input.

Thanks to all under appreciated step parents.

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 23:45

That's because they're not

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Pasithea · 15/03/2014 23:45

It's ok TheMumsRush. Read it now, very disappointing and I'm afraid seems to be typical

Maryz · 15/03/2014 23:46

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 23:48

And here's to all the fab mums out there like marvellousmabel :)

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TheMumsRush · 15/03/2014 23:53

Thanks maryz, I never considered that. Thats a good point.

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