I think I'm going to give up

[TheMumsRush]

Not happy and need to leave. Only my DH says he can't go as he can't afford a hotel and needs to keep business running (from home) so I need to go. I don't have anywhere, no family with room enough for my ds and I. So what do I do? I'm a home owner so can't get evicted? Can anyone help?

That's a bit annoying that he won't go for counselling. But it's worth a try you going on your own. And perhaps he might join you after a few sessions. It would give you a chance to get all your problems and difficulties in the open and tackle them one by one.

Sorry cross post. Definitely seek help and advice. Even if it's just you.

Well one of you is going to have to make a move somehow. If he wants to stay in the property he is going to have to buy you out isn't he? So you have some capital or a deposit to move somewhere else?

He will need to pay you csa and possibly maintenance if you leave so consult a solicitor.

Could you rent somewhere? When exh and I split up, he decided he wanted the house, so I borrowed some money from my parents for a deposit and privately rented. I wasn't working and had 2 ds's. I had to go on benefits for a few months, but it was worth it to be out of the relationship and near my family again.

I was also the one that moved out when me and my ex split up. I rented for a couple of years while we sorted the finances, he then bought me out of the family home and I bought my own home.

I know the MN stance is that the woman shouldn't move out but in our case I couldn't see that it made any difference who moved out, someone had to.

If you cannot afford to stay in the house look into moving out and renting. He cannot be expected to move out and fund another property as well as the house you are all living in unfortunately, if he cannot afford it.

You might have to claim benefits for a while until you find a job.

He's come home and suggested we have couples counselling!!! Said he spoke to his sister and she made him realise the kids can be hard sometimes and he needs to step up! I feel like everything I've been saying for the last 3 years has only sunk in as someone else said it! Don't know how to feel about that.

Take it at face value and go into the counselling with an open mind. Anything else would be churlish.

I will, I hope it helps

I hope this is the turning point for you both. Maybe the threat of you actually splitting gave him a shock.

Well, it's contact weekend. I'm really hoping i see a difference this weekend and don't end up a stranger in my own home again. A bit more parenting on DH side hopefully means I don't feel like the "wicked step mother". If all else fails it's

Good luck MR hope everything goes ok this weekend I know what feeling like a visitor in your own home feels like x