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At my wits end with things like this!!

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SoWhatIfImWorkingClass · 05/04/2013 16:36

I've just posted a Facebook status that reads:

"Daniel and my two beautiful boys mean the whole world to me."

That's my partner and our two sons. I love them to the end of the universe and back.

Then I get a comment off BIL saying, "And X as your step daughter."

I am furious with him. Sick and tired of him saying stuff like this. I swiftly corrected him and told him that I do not call her that and that I am not her stepmum. I am her dad's girlfriend. Am I so so wrong that I do not love her as much as my partner and my two children? I mean, I don't treat her any differently, but the feelings of love just aren't there. So if I don't want to include her in a bloody Facebook status I won't! So so so petty.

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Sunnywithshowers · 07/04/2013 18:42

It's definitely her loss. It sounds like you have a great relationship with your DSD.

Ignore the bastards.

SoWhatIfImWorkingClass · 07/04/2013 18:56

Yeah we really do have a great relationship despite everything. We both went in to town today just me and her whilst we chose some new bedding for her and her brother. It was a nice afternoon :)

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SoWhatIfImWorkingClass · 07/04/2013 20:47

I've had to gracefully bite my lip tonight. These people are testing my fucking patience.

We've just took some nice pictures of all 3 of the children. DP very stupidly sent his mother one of the photos (obviously with the best intentions of giving her a lovely photo of 3 of her grandchildren.) He then gets a phone call off his dickhead brother and goes, "Is X not part of your little family too?" (DSD)

She is quite clearly in the god damn picture. She is THERE.

Apparently he was joking but I don't find it funny at all. There's obviously a dig in there somewhere behind his pathetic jokes. Maybe if I got rid of his nephews out of the picture he'd be happy. Twat.

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SoWhatIfImWorkingClass · 07/04/2013 20:55

I'm sorry I'm posting all of this on here. It's somewhere for me to vent.

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Sunnywithshowers · 07/04/2013 21:05

Your BIL sounds like a shit stirring little bastard. :(

pictish · 07/04/2013 21:36

Your bil does come over quite the wee snotter, doesn't he? What's his problem??

Stop being so snippy OP - Nailak is right. Some people aren't great with tinies. My mil (who is lovely) has only just started taking my two younger ones out for the day, and they are 4 and 5.
She's not comfortable being in sole charge of babies and tots. Not everyone is.

I'm sure your inlaws are as awful as you say...but don't be arsey with people for politely offering an alternative perspective. That's not cool.

mynewpassion · 08/04/2013 01:16

Your bil is an arse but you should have expected that. Maybe he's also trying to tell your dp in a not so subtle way about your fb posting if he didn't see it the other day.

flurp · 08/04/2013 08:20

Ignore the twat BIL.

He is trying to cause trouble - dont let him.
What is his problem anyway?
Glad you had a nice time with DSD. I made cakes with my DSD this weekend it was lovely - things like that make it all worthwhile!

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