Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 2)

[Squirrel3]

Ah ha! I knew I could get it to the two thousand posts!!!!

Maybe he doesn't want to talk about it because it hurts too much? Surely they should be entitled to some sort of contact with the kids?

I did think perhaps he didn't want to talk about it at first but he isn't normally like that - in fact he's usually very much the other way. And yes, you would think they're entitled to some form of contact and that's one of the things that's making me think that they don't want to see them as opposed to they can't. I dunno, perhaps I'm wrong but I really do have this feeling. If it had been me I wouldn't have given them up in the first place - not just after Christmas anyway, I'd have told SS to have a bit of consideration and at least wait till after the New Year and I'd have fought them all the way, including going to local press if necessary. I'm certain that if they wanted to see them SS wouldn't be able to stop them - they are SILs half brothers after all

Prehaps there are issues that you don't know about that maybe stopping them, I just hope that the kids are ok.

Yes there could well be, it just seems so strange that he doesn't want to talk about it because he's not usually like that. And yes I hope they're OK too. I will ask him again next time I see him on his own though just in case I caught him on a bad day

Went to my eldest brothers house last night to take a birthday card for their dd1 who's 16 today and their 7yo ds2 has chicken pox. He's absolutely devastated because they're having a joint party on Saturday for their dd and my brothers FIL who was 60 on Tuesday and he won't be able to go. It's fancy dress and they've bought him a Shrek outfit, he was so looking forward to it. I'm babysitting for him so that everyone else can go. Poor little mite, I felt so sorry for him

Oh bless him, you will have to make sure he has lots of fun with you then.

Yes I will, poor little darling bless him. I'll take DP with me then he can go to work from there (he's on nights this weekend) he's really taken to DP, he was quite disappointed last night when I went round without him

How are things with the skids?

Ok I guess, thank you Naam, its me that is the problem atm, I don't know what is wrong with me lately, when I am at work I'm stressed all day then when I come home all I want to do is cry all the time, I just feel so bloody miserable. I'm not really sure why. Dp wants me to go to the Dr's and get signed off sick while I look for another job, the last thing he said to me before he went out the door to go to work to day was "make sure you go to the dr's". I haven't done it, I can't face it. What do I say "I'm miserable, please sign me off sick for a few weeks"? I'm so tired all the time (even when dp slept on the sofa) I've had loads of test and they can't find out what is wrong.

I'm so sorry, I'm being a miserable cow.

You're not a miserable cow, and you don't have to apologise

Do you think it's because you've been so worried about your dd lately? Or is it perhaps because you can't settle at work? Or more likely a mixture of the two? I agree with your DP I really think you should go and see the doctor and tell him/her exactly how you feel and what's on your mind. They will have come across this sort of thing before, it won't be anything new to them and they will be able to do something for you. Hope you don't mind me saying this but I think you've been feeling down for a while now, just the impression I've been getting. Tell me to mind my own business if you like but I think you're, quite rightly, feeling put upon by your DP and his kids? And of course not being happy at work is not helping

{{{{{{{hugs to you}}}}}}} wish I could do more to help but do keep posting if it helps you

You are a help, and yes I think it is a mixture of all of the things that you have said. You are right I have been like this for months now, I know dp is going to moan at me when he gets in, but I just can’t face going to the dr.

Also I do believe that there is something physically wrong too, my limbs and joints ache all of the time, I keep getting hot flushes, followed by feeling really cold, when I get cold my hands go like ice and when I get hot you could cook and egg on my stomach and I look really flushed, its a bit embarrassing at times. Dr checked to see if I am going through the change early but I'm not, everything is normal. I don't know what is going wrong, the last time I saw the dr she said that there are more test they can do but I am sick of being used as a pin cushion, particularly when they muck-up the blood tests, (last time I had to stay there for an hour while they tried to stop the bleeding) or maybe that is another symptom, I don't know. all I know is that I just want to go to bed and stay there for several weeks.

OMG Squirrel you really dont sound well at all. I do think you should take some time off tbh and relax. you have soooo much no your plate atm withthe skids and dd and not getting enough sleep that its no wonder you are feeling poorly.

No chance of a nice holiday away is there? That might make you feel better.

If you wouldn't stop bleeding I don't think that's because they've mucked up, it could be low blood pressure or low levels of the cells which clot when you bleed. Can't remember their name but this is what I was told when I gave blood once and it didn't stop bleeding for ages. It certainly isn't right you feeling like this and you're right - your DP really will not be happy - try to look at it from his point of view, you wouldn't be happy if it was the other way round wouldn't you? You'd want him to go to his doctor and get some help?

I really do think you should go, it doesn't sound like it's going to get better on its own

Good idea tarantula about a holiday if it's possible

Hope you're OK btw

Hello tarantula, the holiday sounds like a lovely idea but its not possible financially atm, it seems like all of our money is going to BM so that they can go skiing on Friday for 2 wks. I’m not angry that the kids get to go away, I’m really pleased for them but BM has had 2 holidays this year already and we can’t afford to go away because of how much money gives her, it just breeds resentment. I hope I don’t sound like an awful evil stepmum, it just I would love to be able to go away for a week.

Naam, I know I should go to the dr again but…

It ok you can shout at me, I’m sure dp will when he gets in and realises that I haven’t been.

I know exactly what you mean about holidays squirrel. BM, her DP and dsd are going to Scarborough for a week at Easter, Spain for a week in the summer and Mexico for 2 weeks in October. I've only just managed to persuade DP that we should be able to go abroad on our own without feeling guilty then I realised we can't afford it. We do get a week in this country on our own though, I have to pay for holidays so I insist on it, but you're spot on - it just breeds resentment

Squirrel, please go and see your doctor. Think of your grandchildren - they don't want their favourite nanny to be ill

Naam, I said shout at me, not make me feel guilty!

You are right though, its too late to phone the dr today all of the appointments will have gone, I will phone tomorrow and hopefuly they will let me leave work early so I can go.

I don't do shouting....

It may be too late to go today but it's not too late to phone and book an appointment for tomorrow

I've got to go on my driving lesson now, then I've got to go to dd's to set up an old computer I gave her. I'll try to get back on later, thanks for listening and trying to talk some sense into me.

BTW dsd1 has the same old instructor as me and he fell asleep during her last lesson, that made up my mind really, I'm going with the new instructor now, (dp went mad and phoned up the old instructor and cancelled our driving lesson with him because "anything could have happened to either of us (dsd or me) if he falls asleep while he is suposed to be instucting us").

Naam at my dr's you have to phone up on the day, you can't book appointments. I know, it’s ridiculous.

You can't book appointments?? I've heard it all now!!

at the instructor falling asleep!!!! Not surprised your DP went loopy. That's bloody outrageous!!!!

No need to thank me, just wish I could do more to help. I'm not going to shut up till you go to the doctor though

Naam, I think you need to start a new thread 'Naams agony aunt thread' or 'Dear Naam'.

I have just realised that yesterday was 'our' birthday!!!!!!!!!

The Nutty Stepmums club was born 29th March last year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(I meant to check yesterday too, but didn't get chance to be on here)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY NUTTY STEPMUMS CLUB!

Oi ahve you rung the doctor yet Squirrrel??????

Did that wake you up? you really need to go you know you sound really run down. Are you eating properly? I reccommend a bottle of guinness a day a tonic [shudder I hate bottled guinness]

Well said tarantula - I was just about to say the same thing

Friday again, can't believe it. A quarter of the year gone already

How is everyone?

Time flys faster as you get older doesnt it. I never believed it when I was a kid but its true. Mind you I wish the weekends would slow down and weeks speed up.