Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 2)

[Squirrel3]

Ah ha! I knew I could get it to the two thousand posts!!!!

I mean dsd. Sorry

Nothing really major, she's been in trouble at school - again! - been caught with a group of girls who were drinking vodka this time!! She wasn't actually caught drinking but the school are convinced that she had been but they have no proof. It's just one thing after another with her - all little things admittedly - but every time she does something it's a bit more serious than last time iyswim and I wonder where it's all going to end. We only found out because my nephew mentioned it to me in conversation, he thought we knew. She denied it of course and tried to make my nephew out to be a liar but I made DP phone the school this morning to find out the truth. I spoke to him at lunchtime and I think I've finally convinced him that he's too soft with her. All I ever get is "she said she didn't do it - what can I do?" but this time I was determined to convince him that she does lie so that's why I made him ring the school. Don't get me wrong I know all kids lie but DP just wouldn't have it!!

Kids eh? Who'd have 'em

How's your dd?

I don't understand why some fathers think that their daughters can do no wrong, it makes me so angry when my dsd does things and I get the same response from dp as you do from your dp "she say's she hasn't done it, what can I do?" infuriating!

I don't know advice to give as far as dsd goes, it seems like she has got into the 'wrong crowd'. Hang on in there, they do grow up ..... eventually.

It certainly is infuriating! I was talking to my male friend at work this morning - he only has boys but he said he has friends who can never see that their daughters have done anything wrong. My Dad was never like that with me and I wouldn't have wanted him to be, we were taught respect when I was a kid. OMG I sound like my mother again!!

How's ur dd doing?

And I keep forgetting to ask you - did you ds get his car insurance sorted?

Off home now but I'll be back on later

Sorry forgot to add, dd is the same, still down, still self medicating. I don't know why I can convince other peoples kids about the damage it can do and get then to stop taking it but when it comes to my own dd she will not listen and tells me that I don't know what I am talking about. Feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall!!!!

Still, I supose she isn't suicidal atm.

Feel so stressed out atm, the job, dd and the stepkids. Still, dp slept on the sofa this weekend not me, so at least I had a bit of sleep this weekend (it nearly killed him, he was walking around like a zombie moaning "I'm so tired, I'm so tired". Now he knows what it is like for me now!

and yes, I managed to sort out ds's insurance, with me on as a named driver it was cheaper (and I get to drive his car) I looked around and managed to get it for £678! A big drop from £3000 that some companies wanted from him.

That's good £678 Squirrel, still annoys me though how insurance companies rip young people off!!

Really hope your dd is better soon. Please don't take it personally, no-one ever listens to their parents, it isn't just you - I know I never did

Had to smile when I read about your DP and his sleeping You're spot on - he knows how you feel now!

How's everyone else?

workingmum are you OK?

Hello everyone

Hope you're all OK

Squirrel I meant to say yesterday my eldest niece will be 17 in August ( where have those years gone????) and my sister and bil say they're going to buy her a small car. I dread to think how much it'll cost to insure it for a 17yo with a provisional licence - I really don't think they realise how expensive it is

Morning all. Just been doing a bit of catch up reading.
WOW NAAM. (Ms T. grabs quickly spun thread as she plummets floorward off her web) htats news and a half. Its fab and I'm sure you must be jumping up and down.

glad to see ds got his insurance sorted Squirrel and thats a good price too. Sorry to hear dd hasnt got sorted yet. that kinda self medicating isnt good (or so I've heard [innocent face]). Any news on hte interview?

LOL at tarantulas innocent face

Yes I'm very pleased, trying not to get my hopes up too much though at this stage.... but DP and I are already falling out over what football team our child will support

Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god..................... NAAM what absolutely amazing, fantastic, fabulous news!!!!! Im so glad I took a look on here today. Your news has sooooooooooooooooo cheered me up!!!!!

You can tell you DP that he is a wonderful man making my wonderful friend so very happy god I cant stop grinning. Best news Ive had since ...............erm ever! Lol Great big "future mummy" hugs to you xxxx

Thank you FANC xxx so nice to see you on here again

Its good to be back on! You will let us know the progress of things wont you? still grinning like a cheshire cat! How are you keeping? Bouncing off the walls I bet???? Lol

Hello Squirrel and Tarantula and Co. how are you all today?

Yes I'm fine thanks. But I really am trying not to get my hopes up too much, long way to go yet. We don't even know if he can have it reversed or not, he had major complications when he had it done so it might not even be possible. Hopefully his doctor will be able to tell us more

How are you?

Yes Im ok thanks, been to hospital for more tests yesterday and it is looking better, so fingers crossed. DP also promised me a holiday this year as we have had a bit of a crap time of it!! only a week, but I so need a break. We havent had a holiday for 2 years so it will be nice to spend some quality time together on our own for a change. Also DP's parents have said they will take SS and SD to Florida next year for 2 weeks!!! They are so excited bless them. We will probably go aswell as in laws are renting a villa so we only need to pay for flights. DP doesnt really fancy Florida, but I have been before and loved it, besides I dont think I would want to leave the kids with his parents for 2 whole weeks. Its a bit much for them I think.

Glad you're getting better. That's good you're getting a holiday on your own. We always go on our own as well as with dsd - I insist on it I pay for it too though!! Do you know where you're going to go yet? DP and I are going to my brothers caravan in Ingoldmells (near Skegness) in June for the first week of the World Cup - a whole week of football, can't wait Then we're going there again in July with dsd, she loves it there. Florida next year sounds wonderful, bet your DP will love it once he gets there

Not sure where we are going yet, somewhere hot but cheap and cheerful would be great. Probably Ibiza or Greece somewhere. Just a last minute cheap deal, not too fussy really. Not too expensive either so we can save up for spending money for Florida next year. DP is being stubborn and refusing to admit that he will like Florida. If it wasnt for me I dont think we would even be going, but I said it's not fair that his kids get taken on holiday by his parents and not him aswell.

Bulgaria is your best bet. REALLY CHEAP and the weather is beautiful and the beaches gorgeous.

BIg bottles of BECKS are the equivalent of 60p

FANC I'm sure he'll love it when he gets there

workingmum how are you?

How's everyone else today?

Morning all, thank you WMNHS, I hadn't thought of Bulgaria, I will look into that.

Morning NAAM how are you today?

Hi I'm feeling a bit better. I think I have finally admitted that I am suffering from depression and need help. Admitting that to myself has made me realise that I'm not going mad.

Do need some breathing space from DP tho. The looks and comments are making me worse so I have found a short hold apartment I am thinking of staying in for a few months to get myself on my feet. Hopefully he will understand that it is not a long term arrangement and I will be home. I think he is "my lobster" but our relationship is in tatters and spending time together isn't working because we are winding each other up the wrong way. DP has never been a person who talks things thro. He prefers to do it in his own head and then act as tho nothing has happened so talking to him won't work. I hope some time apart will.

Hello FANC I'm OK thank you, not looking forward to this evening though DP has got dsd staying tonight for the first time since she got into trouble at school yet again. I've told him he has to sit her down later and talk to her - ask why she keeps doing these things and explain the trouble it causes to her. Don't know if it'll do any good but we just don't know what else to do. How are you?

workingmum I think you're right about being depressed but do you really think you need time away from your DH? I don't know the man of course but if I was feeling like that I'd want my DP around me to help me through it, but I guess it depends what kind of person he is. Really glad you're going to get help though, do keep posting

Hi All

NAAM . That is fantastic news about your dh's change of heart. I'm so, so pleased for you.

Thank you surfermum

How are you doing?

Hi NAAM, I do hope tonight goes well for you. Im the same, as soon as I know the kids are staying, my shackles go up and I get on edge! I am like that about the week after next when we have them for 7 nights. Im dreading it to be honest.

Hi Workingmumnhs, dont believe we have actually "met" yet as I havent been on here for a long time. Have looked at some of your posts though. I think it is great that you are thinking of getting your own place for a while to sort things out. That really does help.