Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 2)

[Squirrel3]

Ah ha! I knew I could get it to the two thousand posts!!!!

Glad you're joining us bm3sm2

Don't think I'd be able to work from home - I'm just not disciplined enough, probably wouldn't get out of bed till at least 11 for a start!! You're braver than picking the skids up - no way would I be able to do that

tarantula that sounds nice - I know it's cold but you can wrap up. Not that I'm intending going out of the house all weekend, wimp that I am

lol Naam dss has got like that now and needs to be dragged out kicking and screaming (ok whinging and moanig then in best Kevin style)

Wish I could work at home too but I'm like Naam and jsut wouldnt have the disipline. how do you find the time to work at home tho with 3 kids and 2 extra at the weekends. Im impressed.

So up to now we've got

me
squirrel
tarantula
surfermum
biglips
bm3sm2

Hope workingmum will join us, I'll e-mail FANC when we've got a definite date to see if she'll come on, and what's happened to Loopy?? Not seen any posts from her for a while

Can anyone think of anyone else? We might get some more new bods before then

Its actually quite easy, just need to be organised. The good thing is that I plan my wsork around school holidays etc so I am always here for my own three and dh's two (and my nephews, neices, grannies budgie!!!

I can't remember what its like staying in bed till 11 maybe when I'm old and grey I will get to do that. mmm I'm a bit grey already]]]]] The thing is when your kids have flown the nest and you can lie in as much as you want, you can't as you suffer insomnia and are up at the crack of dawn anyway (so my mum tells me!)

Youngest starts school in August there is no way I want to get a "proper" job so I really want to make this work and I am really confident it will.

I stay in bed till at least 11 every weekend - there are some good things about not having children

I'm away now

Probably be on later

Have a good weekend everyone

I cant stay in bed till 11 anymore and dd is only 2!! guess I jsut like spending as much time as poss with her while I'm at home.

My mum says the same thing bm3sm2. Mind you having finally got us all thro uni etc shes gone and got herself a fulltime job so she doesnt get bored!!! Dunno where she gets her energy from as she goes out to concerts etc all the time as well as being in the church choir, tidy town associations and loads of other stuff. I couldnt do it all tbh

have a good one Naam

Hello you chatty lot.

Dp just phoned dsd1 is coming for tea this evening so I'm cooking for 10!!!!!!

On second thoughts I think I'm just too busy at work, I'll just stay here until Monday

Have a good weekend everyone.

Good luck Squirrel. I reckon you should get in a put your feet up and let dp cook the dinner tho.

He will be too busy looking after the kids!

I'm not happy about it to be honest, I'm shattered, all I want to do is curl up and go to sleep.

ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzz

give em all beans on toast

Have a good weekend everyone

sorry coming in half way thru. Join you in what?

Okay read the thread now. Well up for that. Just told DP he looked at me as if I'm going mad. A virtual girls night in on the computer.

Fantastic idea squirrel.

Where is the birthday thread for FANC. We must always respect the founders of fantastic clubs even if we have never met them.

good morning everyone.

Did you all have cosy nights in yesterday. No one was here!

Cosy night in, no way! I had a night in but it was anything but cosy!!!

Had everyone round for dinner, 'kind of' last minute. I was really shattered from work/lack of sleep and dd asked me to have her two, then dp phoned and told me that dsd1 and dss1 would be coming for tea as well as his younger two.

All I wanted to do was go to bed, instead I had a house full. I was trying to cook for everyone and look after the grandkids, dss2 decided to take up the whole sofa and wouldn't let anybody else sit down, then he proceeded to take dgs's 'doggy' off him and refused to let him have it back, dgs got angry and started to kick dss2 and tried to get his doggy back, dp told dgs off for it. I told dp that if dss2 wanted to take dgs's 'doggy' (doggy is a very much loved comforter, dgs will not go anywhere or sleep etc without him) what does he expect? Of course he shouldn't have kicked him, but dss (aded 14) should not have taken dgs's (aged 4) comforter off him! And NO dss did not get told off for it!!

Then after diner dp gave his dd2 all of the ice-cream, of course dgs wanted some but dp gave him a jelly instead, but four year olds being four year olds, he wanted ice-cream instead, dgs became increasingly upset, and IMO pushed out. I got very annoyed at dp, drank a bottle of red wine (after dd had taken her kids home) and when dsd1 and dss1 had gone home, I went to bed in 'the spare room' alone. DP isn't talking to me, I'm not talking to him.

How the 'bloody hell' are we supposed to make mixing these two families together work if dp insists on putting his kids above mine all of the time? I think that they should all be treated the same.

Sorry about the rant!!!

Morning everyone. I agree Squirrel, that sounds really unfair. We have all five this weekend. On a normal sat/sun am, dh would switch on tv and look at news etc. When his dd are here he gives them the remote "to find something for yourself to watch" he NEVER does that with my kids (he does with our own dd too). The thing is that he does'nt even realise he is doing it.

We haven't seen his kids for 3 weeks (not our fault bm playing funny buggers again) and dh kids are acting strange again. Like you know something has been said to them by bm and you feel like you are back to square one. The outside influence of everyone else makes it difficult to be one united family.

Squirrel I don't know how you do it!!! Bad enough being stepmum sometimes without adding grandkids into the mix too

think you deserve a medal imoa

Oh, the thing with the remote gets me too!!!

When dgs is here during the day I let him watch cbeebies, as soon as dp comes home he changes the channel. When his kids are here they have complete control of the remote, if I want to watch something I have to go up to the bedroom to watch it!!!

I also relate to the 'back to square one' thing, just as I feel that we are getting somewhere and things are working, it seems as if suddenly we are back to square one again and you have to work twice as hard to get things back on track.

Having said all of that dp is good with dgd (7 months) sometimes he is the only one who can settle her, she cries when he goes out of the room and will only stop when he comes back in. She adores him, I think she is going to be a 'little step Grandad's girl', she will have him twisted around her little finger as she gets older me thinks (just as his dd's do now!)

squirrel its good to know we are not alone isn't it. With regard to the bm poisoning her kids minds, why do some women behave like that? Children are not possessions to be used in that way. only ones being hurt here are the children (its hurts us adults too

Lovely day here today, how is it where you all are?

re remote control - really glad its not just me!!! sometimes you wonder if you are just too soft with everyone just to keep the peace.

I'm so pi$$ed off!

They (dp and the step-kids) have spent the entire day taking the P out of me because "Squirrel is in a bad mood, ha ha ha its sooooooooooo funny".

In the end I went out because I was in danger of exploding and shouting at them and maybe saying things I might regret later.

I came back when I knew they would be out, I feel like I was 'driven out' of my own home by them.

And yes, this weekend is very definitely one of those 'back to square one' weekends, feels very much like the 'them' and 'me' thing again.

Will it ever get any easier and stay that way?

Hiya everyone,

Flippin `eck. Horrible evening Squirrel. You should have run a bath, had a bottle of wine and locked the door and let them get on with it. See how DP would have coped without you.
Can relate to the remote thing.
When I am at work it is constantly cbeebies or nick jr ( a new addition). As soon as DP gets in Sky Sports is on. Can't remember what is going on in neighbours or any of the soaps, given up trying to find out.
I think the remote is a big black thingwith buttons on but I haven't had control of it for so long wouldn't be able to give an accurate description.