Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 2)

[Squirrel3]

Ah ha! I knew I could get it to the two thousand posts!!!!

Hello biglips

I agree, I would be furious if it happened to us too. If everyone else is anything like us, DP doesn't see as much of his dd as he would like as it is without having visits cancelled

We have a court order in place but bm still withdraws contact, tired of fighting her to be honest! DH has missed out on seeing his kids three xmases out of seven because of the difficulty - not nice at all.

Its dh ex who cancelled the visit this weekend. My xh and I have an ok relationship and he knows he can have them when he wants, just wish he would give me notice instead of just turning up to collect them!

Little one up now for breakfast so will be back to chat soon, x

what is a bm????

birth mother - I may have made it up myself or saw it in another post somewhere!!! too early in the morning for me to remember!

well thats happened to us nearly as dp ex was cancelling all the appointments (3 times she did it) so the sols saidd that if she cancel once more, we will have to carry on without her being presents.... but she turns up at the last one (as she knows cos she works in a sols herself)...

supposed im lucky with her as we both get on and she invited me to a ann summers party once at her house (with dps sisters too) so we are both cool about it but shes abit funny with dp at times

SD as I have mentioned is in a drama group and I have only ecently been allowed to go and watch the performances but BM's DP goes all the time with the excuse that SD lives with him. The big turning point was this Sept. I WAS INVITED TO PARENTS EVENING! NOt with BM but we had are own separate appointment just me and DP and SD. I finally thought that I had finally been accepted as a permanent fixture not just a "bit of fluff" (Been with DP for 5 years at this point btw) It was nice to be reated like a parent of Lauren.But the teacher was a bit condesending. I am 27 and DP is 35 but I look about 19. No it isn't a blessing it is a curse. Anyway the teacher said to DP "You remember what it was like at school" and then directed to me "and I'm sure YOU remember" as if I only left school a few weeks ago. I nearly lamped her one. Just Smile and nod
smile and nod

Ooohh workingmum, I'd have had to say something to that teacher!! Something like "actually I've been left school 11 years - I'm just ageing very well, unlike some people"

You're right about BM btw, it does mean birth mum, as in your stepkids mum

Really wish someone looked at me that way! Its a bit scary to have a child at secondary school - even scarier to realise you are old enough for that to be the case!! Still 17 in my head sometimes.....

Good Morning everyone!

I just arived home form my driving lesson, yippie! I think at last I am getting there (only hit one person and I only hit the kerb once today instead of the usual three )

I always looked young for my age, when I was 26 I had taken the kids to the local park and I was talking to couple of teenagers who were there when dd called out look at me Mum, they looked at me in amazement, "have you got a child? they asked "well yes" I replied "well actually I've got two, look". Then one of them said "Blimey! I thought you were our age"!

Sadly now I am a granny I don't think I would get away with it! ... But I do get mistaken for being their Mum sometimes!

bm3sm2, you just wait until you are a grandmother!!!!!!!!!

Then you will feel old!!!

Hello Squirrel

Funny thing isn't it how some people just don't look their age yet some look much older? My poor sister looks much older than 37 - we used to go shopping together a lot when I was still at school, I was about 16 so she'd have been 19 and people used to think she was my mum - oops!!

Glad you're nearly there with your driving Squirrel, it'll be such a new lease of life for you - have you got a car yet or are you waiting till you've actually passed?

I went asked for ID on a bottle of wine the day after my 26 birthday. Refused lottery at 19. When I tell people I have a child they look at me like a foolish child who has ruined there life by not taking precautions. You would think being 5'9" would help my cause but it doesn't.
Just bought DD ballet outfit. HOW CUTE!

I'm waiting until I pass, it would cost to much to insure without passing my test. I must admit I would love to have a car now so that I could go out with dp so that I could practice, practice and practice some more, I'm sure its all I need now.

Just had a phone call from dp, dss might not be coming this evening as he has rotten flu, he usually comes if he is ill, I think he has got wind that dp want to have words with him about the....erm... 'mess' he keeps on leaving in his bed. If dss was just having wet dreams, ok, that's not his fault but he is ...erm... (sorry, can't say it). Its not fair that he is doing it then expecting me to clean it up afterwards. He will have a suprise, because if he does come (sorry wrong choice of words) this evening he will have to just lay in his own mess because I didn't change the bedding, neither did dp. Our opinion is if he wants to do it he can clean up or lay in it!!!!!

Sorry to go on about it, I know its gross but its really getting to me!

Good for you Squirrel - I'd have done that too. Glad your DP is finally with you on this at last You'll be fine with your driving, once you've passed you can get out there on your own and it'll be wonderful

workingmum glad you got the ballet outfit - they are gorgeous aren't they? Bet you can't wait for her to try it on Blimey you're tall - I'm only 5'2 Don't mind tho, I've been the same height since I was 12

No need to apologise Squirrel - that's what we're here for It would get me down too!!

I just think it's such a shame it's taken for your DP to stand by you on this, but at least he's doing it now I suppose

Dp was always 'with' me on it, but didn't know how to handle it, he didn't want dss to feel 'dirty', but he did realise how horrible it was for me to deal with it.

When he told him he had to change his own bed every week, he was hoping that dss would know why without him having to say "Stop Wanking!" but as he is not changing the bed himself dp has to say something to him. Its disgusting just leaving it there, his room really stinks! Sorry if TMI.

Yes I can imagine it must be a very, very awkward situation to have to deal with and I certainly don't envy you. If he was your son tho I bet you'd have had this nipped in the bud long ago? Men just don't seem to have the communication skills that us women have - and IME they definitely don't have what it takes to give their children a telling off when they need it...

I agree totally NAAM.

If he was mine I would have said something ages ago, ds and I are very close and things like that have been openly discused in my home (pre-Step-kids) because if he had a problem I wanted him to feel that he could talk to me about anything (and he does) but its different with step-kids, more difficult to be open about things like this.

BTW NAAM, communication skills? What me??? Don't think I possess any of those!

Does talking alot of rubbish count? lol

lol Squirrel

Talking rubbish?? Speak to your DP, I'm sure he'll be able to help with that - all men are fantastic at it

Still can't believe it's February, I don't like this month cos it's soooo expensive - valentines day plus birthdays on 9th (niece 8), 10th (nephew 13), 12th (nephew 14), 18th (niece 15), 25th (DP 39) and 28th (dsd 13)

I've already started teasing DP cos he's 40 next year

NAAM, nelli is asking on loopys thread for the address of that site for Childless stepmums.

Dp and I met on Valentines day, so its a 'sort of' aniversary for us. I have no idea what to get or do for him, any suggestions?

(They can't cost much BTW)

Just posted her a link - thanks for that, I hadn't spotted it

You met on valentines day? That's really sweet. I've only bought DP a t-shirt this year, and a nice card of course. I'll probably get him some kind of romantic bear or something too but we've said we're not buying too much - we did last year because it was our first valentines day together. Could you get him something for his fishing - like a bag/holdall or something? Think a reel or rod would be too expensive (my Dad loves fishing and I know what he spends sometimes - much to Mums disgust )

Yes, he came to put up a new ceiling in my kitchen after I had a leak in the bathroom. We sort of 'clicked' but I was so wary of him/men I wouldn't agree to go on a date for ages. He texted me everyday (just general chit-chat and funnies etc) for two months before I agreed to go on a date with him, he laughs about that first date, he say's "I looked like a rabbit caught in car headlights"! ....

and when he tried to kiss me goodnight I froze so he just gave me a peck on the cheek.

Can you imagine how long it took him to get me into his bed? (can't believe I just posted that).

When eventually he did the fire alarms went off in his block of flats, the fire brigade turned up and we all told (by loud speaker) to evacuate the building!!!!!!!