Just had a massive chat with DSD regarding the fact that she had allegedly said she hated me. I wanted to sort it out so I sat down and told her to tell me everything. She didn't want DH to be there - not sure why.
Anyway she was coming out with so much stuff that she shouldn't even know IMO. Stuff about how much her mum earns and that it's not enough and we should pay more, the fact that we went away for the weekend when it was her weekend and that we should have made it another time (it wasn't her w/e, her mum had messed w/e's about then conveniently forgot)....oh there's more but I can't remember as it's late.
Anyway, she was soooo upset, and quite rightly so - I would have been if I'd have been told all this.
I had to correct her on a few things, as assumptions had been made by her mum about things which weren't true. I felt bad doing this, as I don't like to argue a point through the child, ie your mums wrong, but if I
Hadn't, then she would be left thinking a lot of things that were not true.
I feel so wretched about it all, like I have stirred it all up by defending us - would I have been better not to say anything?
I didn't bad mouth at all - just kept it very matter of fact.