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I become invisible during access visits

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cobbledtogether · 02/10/2010 23:56

I have a step daughter, who is lovely and we get on fine.

My problem is that I just can't work out what happens to my DH when she's visiting. Its like I become invisible and my feelings mean nothing.

Earlier today I came downstairs to find that they had both gone out. Nothing had been mentioned about going out, they'd just gone. I had no idea where to or how long. At first I thought they'd gone to the shop, but after an hour they'd not come back, so I texted to ask how long they'd be so I could make plans - no reply.

I waited for about another 30 mins then text again. No reply, but they came back about 15 mins after that. As soon as SD was out of earshot, I got an earful about texting and chasing them up as he was allowed to spend time without me there.

This really annoyed me as of course he is and I don't interfere in their time, but I thought it was fair enough on a Saturday to want to know if they were going to be out all day and also thought it was reasonable for him to mention that they were going out in the first place.

This isn't the first time this has happened and its really beginning to piss me off.

I could possibly understand his actions if SD and I didn't get on, but we actually like each other and spend time alone when DH is at work quite happily.

He says I need to understand that her visits are their time. I say that's fine, but it shouldn't stop him from at least letting me know if they are off out somewhere.

I'm beginning to wonder if it is me Confused

OP posts:
madmn52 · 08/10/2010 23:42

Not everyone Doodle - be afraid - read the whole thread - then get out of the water.

oh and Ta-ra Smile

colditz · 08/10/2010 23:50

madmn52

Jolly good Hmm

colditz · 08/10/2010 23:51

Doodly - I really honestly wouldn't. SD or no SD, I really don't mind.

Doodleydoo · 09/10/2010 17:27

Colditz - you are definitely nmore chilled than me then - DH would get very short shrift if he buggered off and didn't tell me he was going out, and then didn't tell me if he was here for a meal or not. If he did it enough he might even end up on his own permanently Wink.

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