You can cite every example you like of a red card that you think should/shouldn't have been - I don't know which Xhaka incident you're referring to, and we all know that refereeing is inconsistent. And?
This wasn't a red card: there was insufficient force. You can disagree with the criteria, but it is what it is. It may also have been that in this case, the ref and VAR didn't see it as a deliberate attempt by VVD to 'elbow' Richarlison, but as an attempt to ward him off using his body and arms (which you're still allowed to do) with VVD accidentally catching him across the throat/chin in the process (it's not actually as clear from your clip as you profess it to be - of course, I don't know if that's how they saw it, cos I'm not the ref). Maybe Richarlison's play acting didn't help - who knows. Anyway, you think it was a red, I don't agree, and neither did the referee. We will have to agree to disagree on this one.