Tell Mumsnet Flendr about the outrageous experiences you’ve had when people have been brass-necked with money – £300 Love2Shop voucher to be won! NOW CLOSED

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Collecting money for shared presents, holidays, dinners etc. can be a pretty stressful experience and take a lot of organising. It can also be a massive hit to the bank account when someone doesn’t pay on time. On top of this, it can lead to strained relations between friends and family – people say they’ve paid when they haven’t, they forget to pay or they think they are no longer liable when they pull out of that concert last minute because they had something better to do.

Have you ever found yourself in a difficult situation when chasing people to pay you back for something? Did it lead to awkwardness or an argument? Did people make up ridiculous excuses to get out of paying their share? Whatever the story, Mumsnet Flendr would like to hear it!

Here’s what Mumsnet Flendr says: “We are excited to introduce Mumsnet Flendr, our official online platform for organising cash collections and fundraising activities. If you find yourself paying on behalf of others – whether it is a night out, tickets to a concert, hen party or collective birthday gift - use our platform and make your life that little bit easier.”

Please share your story with Mumsnet Flendr below and you will be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 Love2Shop voucher.

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Mine was over a concert ticket for a long sold out show. My then partner couldn't go at the last minute, so I asked a friend if she wanted to go. She did and was thrilled, but as it was last minute, said that she would only give me £10 for the ticket. Not wanting to veer into AIBU territory though...

My sister and I fell out after she asked me to chip in the most money for my mothers birthday party. She said because my husband and I were both working we should contribute more then everyone else!

I am useless at asking for money back especially when it is small amounts - just seems petty to ask for a few pounds but then I feel resentful - really daft! I now avoid situations that involve shared money. We used to do a weekly neighborhood lottery ticket which I was elected to buy and no one ever paid their 20p on time and I felt silly repeatedly asking for 20p - we never won either.

I am too kind for my own good and have been stung more than once! I saved a family from eviction due to hardship and they still to this day snub me!!! BUT I refuse to give up my faith in human nature and let a few bad experiences turn me sour - some say I should learn a lesson by my mistakes but the lesson is learnt I just feel it would be a sadder day if I gave up being me! On a positive note I helped a Japanese student who had lost her purse...I gave her a lift to train station and money to get her to the airport. I never gave her my address but she tracked me down once home and her parents wrote and thanked me and sent a parcel and repaid me......

My husband and I went to visit some of his friends who had an enormous house and plent of money. He had just started a college course which he had to fund himself and although I was working We had a mortgage to pay so hadn't any spare cash. My husband and I ended up funding the evenings drinks. His friends were all women and were quite happy for him to go up,to the bar all night. Not one of them offered to pay for a round!

A family meal out to celebrate my mum's 60th. We all decided to chip in and low and behold my brother made himself unavailable for payment.I had to stump up his share as expected.He managed to get to the meal and sat there all night eating and drinking, ignoring the fact he hadn't paid for any of it.

My sister in law owed me money for weeks. When she asked my husband for a lift into town to go clubbing, enough was enough. I demanded she paid it back, even though she protested that she wouldn't be able to go out again!

We lent my sister and her husband £500 pound to pay their heating and a few other bills one year. It was agreed they would pay back £ 20 a week straight into my account, we received two payment and then they stopped paying. I ask a couple of times as to why they had not paid . both times i was meet with excuses. In the end i didnt ask anymore and to this day (5Years on) they still havent paid it back. I later found out they borrowed the same amount from my parents a week after they borrowed from us and they too have not received the money back. A year after this happened they tried to borrow more. I told them we didnt have any to give and so did my parents. I wouldnt mine but they have more money coming in then any of the family and yet they still have never mentioned paying back the money they owe

We have been very errmm, selective, with whom we share anything with after a bad family experience when it comes to money. Ours wasn't about collecting it - it was about over paying it! From my mother of all people. Young and unable to get a loan she got one out for me for £1000 - I ended up repaying her £3000 and she refused to pay me one penny back. We've also lent money to our brother but already guessed that we would not see any of that back as the MIL informed us she never saw hers back - so now we don't lend anyone anything! Of course, when my DC's are older we will happily help them out. But that's it.

My best friend is always owing me money which is very annoying as I rely on my early retirement pension while she has a very wealthy husband & a pension of her own. She always intends to pay me back but then spends the money again before she gets chance to give it back to me. It's very frustrating, I call her Lady Shopalot as she can't go into a shop without spending an absolute fortune but it's annoying when I can't afford to buy things because she owes me money.

A so called friend once asked if I would lend her some money until pay day which was later that week and she would give it back, Every time I saw her it was a though she was trying to avoid me an was very sheepish, so I wait a few more days for her to give it me back without me asking her for it, all the time I was thinking if I have to ask her for my money back then I will never lend her another penny, So just after 2 weeks after lending it to her, Well feeling very awkward I did ask her and also told never to ask again I also told her that if she had gave it me back when she say she would that I would have barrow her money again. 'Lesson learnt'

I found it difficult when in work we decided to do a lottery together, it was very hard to get the money off some people regularly.
in the end I stopped doing it

My neighbour agreed to go half with a new fence between our gardens. I am yet to see any of the money.

I have been chasing a cheque recently which was supposed to be received within 30 days. It was 'missing' in the post. Then I received one but it wasn't signed. The next one was signed but for the wrong amount. The cheque for the difference went missing in the post. Then I finally got hold of the remainder. It was quite an epic saga, I continued to chase it on principle!

Has to be the dreaded school/club sponsor forms , they are a real gripe of mine with the kids only going to the doors of people they know well, who seem happy to sponsor.. trying to get the money out of them can be a completely different story, not sure why they sponsor when they can't hand over the 50p or £1, not sure how out of pocket I am over the years making up the total.

A couple of years ago myself and a so called friend decided it would be a great idea that our two young children do a joint birthday party in my garden, sounded a great way to save money( oh how wrong was I) hired a bouncy castle, all food done by myself, electric for the day, and all the little things soap, toilet roll etc. The other parent at 1st did contribute a loaf of bread here and a bottle of juice there and said on her hubbys payday she would pay half towards the cost in total, payday never came and I never did see the money, just be careful when arranging parties like this as not only was I left out of pocket we are no longer on speaking terms

I agreed, against my better judgment to help a close relative out, and sign for a mobile phone contract as he did not have a good enough credit rating. He was working and agreed to pay me back every month. As you can guess it did not bode well, he lost his job (dismissed) and therefore was not entitled to any benefits, I was then stuck with the 2 year contractual payments. #oncebitten

my son did a charity run in memory of my mum chasing sponsor money from people is hard work.Its much easier when they donate online.But taking a sponsor form into work is not a good idea.Nightmare trying to get the money off people after my son did the run.

I had a friend when in my teens.
Who was really struggling with money
.So I helped where I could and said pay me when you can.
As time went on tension started to come between us as I felt she was taking the mickey.
She seemed to think I was made of money and could wait forever for my money back.
Put it this way now we are no longer friends because of it.

I hate doing the collection. I have been landed with it in the past for leaving presents for staff and just find it so awkward to ask people for money! Usually I find that people make excuses and say come back when I have some cash on me, making it even more awkward to ask again. I have often had to put in more than I usually would as the total is pathetic! I hate doing collections!

I recently put money into a collection for a gift for a good friend who was leaving our place of work. I put in £20 as I was very fond of her and wanted to make sure she had a nice present. However, when the gift was finally bought there was only £35 in the kitty, despite there being 15 other people in the workplace. She was a popular girl so I was surprised and a bit annoyed that so little money was given. It was all anonymous so I couldn't say anything and ultimately I was very glad I had given so much or she wouldn't have got anything!

I've always found them they need people to display their behaviour. If you ignore it they have very little chance to behave as such. Do not engage because then they have the upper hand...Their aim is to put people down because basically they feel small. I learned it the hard way but now I don't forget.

I used to live in a shared house and at the beginning we decided to set up a house kitty for items such as cleaning products, hoover bags, washing up liquid, toliet roll etc as everyone would be using these things. The contribution per month was tiny, I think from memory it was about £5. Every month I had to ask and ask and ask my fellow flat mates for their contribution and they were full of excuses. One even had the audacity to say that I bought expensive (it was the stores normal brand instead of the value range) washing up liquid so was contributing less because he didn't think we needed to spend so much!!

I have always helped out a friend over many years in bad times and never ever wanted the money back as I could afford it... However one month I had lots to pay out for due to my boiler needing replacing and my friend offered to help which was lovely, but the following month she asked for the money back, it was not a 10th of what I had given her over the years and I was stunned by her request... I repaid the money but that was it for the friendship.

Had a friend who when it was Christmas bought her baby a baby walker for his Christmas present, when I had a baby 18 months later shes sold it back to me!