A stressful evening last night, with DD2’s ex ringing me up three times, while in his car to say he can’t cope and never wanted to speak to her again. He wanted to sell the house, and move to a cheaper part of the county. He blocked her on his phone. Apparently, the last straw was she said, he has to wash her clothes separately from hers, because his are contaminated by the cat.
She has another obsession about what can harm the baby! Microplastics - and she doesn’t want the baby to come into contact with any plastic. He’d already bought glass bottles, but now the baby is weaning, she doesn’t want the baby to have plastic utensils. I can’t see what toys the baby is going to play with!
DD2 rang me up at least 6 times, while I was talking to him, complaining he’d stormed out (several times) and she doesn’t know how to sterilise the bottles without him, verging on the hysterical at times. She does know how to use one of their sterilisers, because I’ve been there and seen her do it. I was worried about what she was going to do, on her own, mostly for the baby’s sake.
DD1 is home, so she had to listen to it all, as DH was out at cardiac rehab, which wasn’t ideal, as she’s depressed about all her seizures. When DH got back, he helped her to bed. I told DH, I couldn’t cope with DD2, her ex and DD1, while he did nothing and went to bed. He never wants to deal with “emotional talk” from the DC.
Eventually, the ex came round to our house quite late, and said he was suicidal. I didn’t want him to drive home for the third time at midnight, when he was clearly tired, but he insisted he had to give the baby her medication or else she wouldn’t feed today. DD2 doesn’t know how to mix it up.
I just can’t see any good outcome to all of this, while DD2 thinks she is protecting DGD and there’s nothing wrong with her, she just knows better than us, her ex and the MH HCPs! She is now taking the antipsychotic, but won’t take the antidepressants or methylphenidate, citing breastfeeding!