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AIBU to be sick and tired of the attitude on mn

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2shoesformyvalentine · 12/02/2009 22:30

first we had the super race thread.
we have to put up with countless P&T debates which always end up with some idiot saying they object to disabled bays.
now 3 threads about how nt people should be able to use disabled toilets.
add in all the crap we take in rl...
I am so

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comparethePeachydotcom · 12/02/2009 22:45

YANBU

I mean I lost.me. I never ver lose it.I amlike Buddha (too much like Buddha-must start ww again!)

I ahve to buy a new keybopard- CA for one week gone LOL

I said it already on twinset's flounce thread; there'sa lot of newbies here that are not what they were

which makes me sound like a M

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2shoesformyvalentine · 12/02/2009 22:57

tbh I would go right now, if it wasn't the sn ladies ane my mates.

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bullet123 · 12/02/2009 23:04

Don't feel you have to go. For what it's worth I haven't used disabled toilets.

comparethePeachydotcom · 12/02/2009 23:09

Bullet LOL,I reckon 99% of the poeplemhere haven't tbh.

The thing is- its just every day atm isn't it?

And keyboards are expensive (that last ojne is for 2shoes)

alfiemama · 12/02/2009 23:24

YANBU

I cant stand the way also if you make spelling mistakes you are outcast, what about the dyslexics amongst us.

To fecking buy a radar key is nt (disgraceful) grrrr, Im just to angry to fecking answer

comparethePeachydotcom · 12/02/2009 23:27

I know Alfie- i keep gettimng ahuledup on it:having bad sihght plus a bf baby doesnt help LOL

alfiemama · 12/02/2009 23:31

some people are so far up their own arses it pisses me off, they want to get with the real world, fecking cant leave my child out of sight, would they rather our children sh**te on the floor. Or are they too precious to pick ones baby out of ones pram and hold her whilst they whizz.

OOh bad day for me off to bed, before I say something I regret.

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2shoesformyvalentine · 13/02/2009 08:28

I havr reported the spelling comment as it was apersonal attack. I am calmer today>>>

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5inthebed · 13/02/2009 09:06

I've read both posts on the disabled toilets, but am too aghast to reply to any of them (maybe I should). I think its ridiculous that some people think its ok to buy a radar key so they can use them?! What if someone is in there that can't speak?

Most of the answers are so unreasonable beyond belief!

alfiemama · 13/02/2009 09:15

Ooh crikey, think the wine had some effect on my posting, bit naughty of me, sorry. But I still stand by what I said though.

5inthebed · 13/02/2009 09:37

NICE???!!!

Tclanger · 13/02/2009 09:38

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cherrymonster · 13/02/2009 10:05

i have to say i agree. i have 3 nt children, and one with sn, i am not disabled and wouldnt even dream of sending ds2 (sn) into a disabled toilet as he is not physically disabled. i think it is perfectly reasonable for disabled people to be in uproar about this idea. i think that the radar keys should be automatically sent by the government to people who are registered disabled and nt people should not be allowed to buy them. having said that, if that idea was implemented, i would be sent one for ds2 but would not actually use it, to the wrong person that would be a temptation to stick it on ebay and flog it to the highest bidder. i wouldnt do this, i would return it to the government, but some people might.

feelingbetter · 13/02/2009 10:57

That thread is full of the most precious, self-centered people I have ever encountered.

What really pissed me off was not the 'There was nothing else I could do so had to use the disabled loo' comments. I agree this sometimes happens - never to me though, strangely . (Not having a go at anyone with urgency issues at all)
It was the bloody sense of entitlement 'I should expect to use the disabled loo coz I've got a buggy'. Diddums.

And what has really got me thinking is, how much time do these bloody people spend in shopping centres? As a healthy grown up adult, I can do a couple of hours amble round town, walk there, and back - and still sort out my DS and myself at home.

FioFio · 13/02/2009 11:10

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2shoesformyvalentine · 13/02/2009 11:17

oh dear another dig!!!

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2shoesformyvalentine · 13/02/2009 11:33

fio a lot of people did report posts on the race thread, but MN HQ allowed even the sick ones to stay.

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cory · 13/02/2009 11:46

I think Fio does have a point. There are women out there who genuinely believe that having a new baby is something akin to being disabled or having a disabled child. They're not all nasty: they genuinely haven't thought about what it might be like to struggle with a 12-year-old in a wheelchair and why this situation might be ever so slightly different from taking a baby on the bus. They need it pointing out to them.

alfiemama · 13/02/2009 11:55

Do these people genuinely exist though, how can someone compare say for example a large cumbersome wheelchair to a lightweight modern pram.

Or another example, someone with a condition which means they have no understanding of controlling there bladders to someone healthy and fit that could cross their legs.

Or an older child still in nappies is hardly comparable to a new born is it?

Just a thought

cory · 13/02/2009 12:06

I know, you wouldn't think it would need pointing out. But it does.

Did you see the bus thread some time ago. Several posters took the part of the mum who had refused to fold her buggy to let a wheelchair onto the bus. They seemed to think that a disabled used should either travel at a less busy time or use a car.

I got a bit snooty when yet another child told dd how much they envied her for riding home from school. Dd just raised her eyebrows and muttered: 'If I were to get upset every time somebody said that to me, I'd spend an awful lot of time crying, wouldn't I?'. Sad but true.

alfiemama · 13/02/2009 12:13

at the bus thread.

Your dd sounds amazing.

I was discussing it with my friends yesterday and we all said isnt funny how children are (usually) the most accepting. Its the parents that squirm when they hear a child having a meltdown.

mrsturnip · 13/02/2009 12:14

re the nappies.

I think many people have no concept even that adults might be in nappies. I remember when Roz Blackburn (severely autistic, but boy she can talk) started going on about her nappies there were audible gasps from the room.

I think fio has a good point. And many people on MN won't even listen to an argument from SN now as they think its just PC rubbish.

FioFio · 13/02/2009 12:19

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alfiemama · 13/02/2009 12:20

I know what you mean mrsturnip. I was on a thread once and the woman was obviously struggling and had already said her son had dyspraxia and that he was doing odd things, like poo smearing etc. When we suggested could be because of sn, everyone jumped down our necks "oh not the sn argument again"

cory · 13/02/2009 12:31

Actually, I think dd's was the more sensible reaction, Fio: she accepted that there was no bad intention and that life is just too short. I know she has a good point.