Bibic - I have finally managed to feel as though I can move on

[Blossomhill]

As you all know the trip to Bibic was an amazing time for my whole family.
For all of you that have known me for the year+ I have been on mumsnet will know just how much of a rollercoaster we have been on. We have asd/adhd/not asd/not adhd. Just didn't know whether I was coming or going (as you all know as I turned to you lot for support) and it took so much out of me. It wasn't so much the actual dx itself but the is she/isn't she? feeling that was actually tearing me apart. I'd be like that's an auti triat/oh that's adhd, just scrutinising everything that she did and it wasn't fair on her or me, any of us really.
So when I spoke to Bibic today and they told me the results of the CARS test (and they were very thorough, took about 2 days I believe as they really wanted to get it right) was that she wasn't even mildly autistic or even borderline. She came out in the normal range which I am obviously pleased about as I think deep down I always knew it but had so many different people telling me there opinion it clouded my judgement of what I was really thinking.
Dd still does have quite significant social/communication difficulties and I know we have a rocky road ahead whatever they call it so nothing has changed in that respect, just I know which direction we are heading.
I wanted to say thanks to all of you who have given me advice and still will give me advice.
I have met some lovely people on here, real true friends and I wanted to say I am sorry if I have sounded like a stuck record. I bet you have all breathed a sigh of relief too. Thanks again for listening, it really means a lot. Blossom xxxxxxxxxxxxx

[jayzmummy]

Gosh Merlot that was quick, we had to wait three months....lucky you.

[Blossomhill]

Merlot - yeah

You won't regret it, I promise. Now aren't we meant to be having an e-mail chat about this soon????

Blossomxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Merlot]

Yes Please Blossom

I just want to hear chapter and verse about it and any good tips. What is the 2nd day like? I know that first day is assessment, 2nd day they draw up the programme and third day they teach it to you. What do you do on the 2nd day?

Jayzmummy - yes it is quick - we went for a cancellation

[milge]

BH, you've inspired me to finally email BIBIC about getting dd on a course too, your positive message made my mind up. How much is it, if you don't mind me asking, just so i can start saving up...

[Merlot]

£700 Milge - but most parents get a bursary. See BH's thread here

[Blossomhill]

Hi Merlot

Well on the 2nd day you see the pros. You see:

SALT
Doctor
Physio
Nutritionalist

All for about 45 min-1hour slots

They make you feel so relaxed and you have lunch there too.

3rd day is going over all of the results of the tests done on 1st day. So they check general language development, social skills,gross and fine motor, visual and play skills on the 1st day and you get the results on the 3rd day.
Then they go over general day to day things youcan do to help and give you an individual learning plan. They also go over sensory issues and give you a plan to help with that. Dd loves the sensory and asks to do it, it's so funny. She loves the massaging with the electric massager.
Anymore info Merlot, please ask. Oh I am so excited for you to go so I can hear how it all went. I cannot believe that you are going in 2 weeks, wow!!!!!!

Blossomxxx

[Merlot]

I know - cant quite believe it myself. I'm very excited

Thanks for that info - v.useful .

Where do you get the equipment like the electric massager - do they give you a list of things to buy or do they lend you stuff?

[Jayzmummy]

When we went we were seen on the first day by all the professionals....I think it differs depending on the availiabilty of the SALT and GP.

[Jayzmummy]

All the bits and pieces they recommend you get are available from Argos!!!!
Dont go rushing off and buying anything until you have checked back here because between Blossy, Yorkee and myself we will be able to tell you were to source the equipment at the cheapest prices!!!

[Blossomhill]

Merlot

As Jazmummy says talk to us about all of the stuff you need to buy. I got an electric massager from Argos for £15!!!!
A very good friend of mine who comes on here (and I hope is reading this ) very kindly gave me a swivel chair, which has been a god send (another part of the sensory programme).

Trefusis - thank you so much for your lovely comments I have been wondering where you were !!!! xxx

[Merlot]

Thanks BH and Jayzmummy - will certainly be in touch when we get back from BIBIC

[sylvm]

Just had our phone interview. We are going early in August (our choice because of hubby's work commitments). They seemed confident they could help. It will be quite exciting I think.

[Blossomhill]

Great slyvm - if you need any advice please CAT me. It has been amazing. Although have to admit still don't have the sensory programme up and running fully yet. Still getting used to preparing the food all from scratch