Had a touch of the jealous green monster today :(

[Merlot]

Beautiful day today, not a cloud in the sky. Perfect spring day. We had friends over for dinner last night - it was lovely, but dh and I are feeling jaded and I had rotten night with ds2 who has terrible cold/virus. Turned into bed at 1.30am - woken up by ds1 who had wet his bed at 2.15am - back to sleep to be woken up by ds2 at 3.15am (who then didnt go back to sleep until 6am ) I then slept until 11am, courtesy of dh giving me a lie in. Why, oh why, do we always burn the candle at both ends? We so rarely have friends round, but when we do look what happens!!

Anyway, shock off the jaded feel - went to a National Trust Property - ds1 moaned that it was boring (admittedly they had roped off all the fun grassy slopes that 8 year olds like to run down), ds2 (fast asleep in buggy - now he sleeps!!) and we were surrounded by loads of `perfect' famillies out with their NT 18mth darlings, walking, pointing, babbling etc. etc. Everywhere we looked!! Am I really a terrible person/jealous cow. I don't begrudge other people there healthy little darlings, but by God life sometimes seems so unfair....

Sorry to sound off, but I thought I'd get that out of my system before I went to bed

ohhh you have me all fired up now... I am off to post on the thread.... wonder what they would do here in Aus the gov't is paying people to have children - EVERYONE is entitled to $3000 for each child born after 30 June 2004. Prior to that they did one off payments of just over $600 PER CHILD. So when dd2 was born the gov't gave us $3000. Am about to put the cat among the pigeons .... silly irresponsible us - I claimed benefits and we had just emigrated to Aus ... dd had no job and I was almost 20 weeks pregnant - interesting to see their responses....

Oops just realised totally off the thread but I do know how you feel.. I look at friends who have children same age as dd1 and I get a little jealous - simple things like they are talking almost in sentences or toilet trained etc... and I wonder how my life would be different BUT then dd1 smiles at me or does something to remind me how amazing and precious she is and the green mist disappears.

OMG I so nearly posted this exact same thread yesterday. Had a conversation with dh as to whether I was turning into a bitter and twisted old cow - we decide it was best not to, and he pointed out that holidays are always bad.

When I had ds2 I puposely stayed away from NT families and have been trying to venture out much more with ds3 and get involved. but I'm not ready!! Even after almost 3 years post diagnosis, and with 2 (hopefully- defintely 1) NT child I find myself wanting to scream "oh ffs" half way through most conversations.. Which probably makes me barking. or bitter. or both. Doesn't help that all the things they organise to do during holidays I can't do.

I'm off to crawl under a rock! (and stay there)

gawd me too, makes me sick

I've just posted there..... lol!!!

so have i!!

Fantastic posts (on other site!) guys! She is going to wonder why she is being bombarded by people who have disability in the family which will no doubt be quite disconcerting for her (and that other one, Morag!).. being as they consider it could never happen to them! (And doesn't happen to other people v.often either.. think they were trying to dismiss me as some poor rare sob story!)

Be interesting to see the responses.

Apologies again Merlot re this thread. As you can see it was completely unintentional that it went off on a tangent like that.

SJ x

Misdee.. never read the full story on DH before. How dreadful.. I hope he gets his tx soon. Thinking of you all. I know you must hate to hear this (it makes me cringe a bit when I get told it!) but I think you are one very brave lady. I know you are just dealing with it because you have to (know the feeling).. but you keep doing it anyway! And you're obviously a loving mum and DW throughout..

SJ x

thast the shortened version!! am thinking about getting hold of dh notes and seeing if we have cause for complaint against the hospital here.

i just couldnt resist the dig about the car

LOL.. we could have two motobility cars if we chose to.. (can't afford to use Ds's money on one so don't). What would she think of that?! So 'nice' (IYSWIM) to come across other families in similar situations. Sometimes I dofeel like an oddity..3 people claiming DLA in one house.. (not that we ever have any spare momney!) but you don't plan these things do you!

SJ x

PML.. the H person has arrived on the forum and has this to say about Hunker's provocative 'class' thread..

"I dont think class can be explained - Either you have it or you dont - I certainly dont think class can be bought !!!!"

Pot, kettles..and black.. spring to mind!! I wonder if she is now browsing the new additions to the Maternity Grant thread! Perhaps she'll bottle out..

SJ x

And she doesn't seem to have picked up on the fact that Hunker and I have quoted her word for word (re "well paid job...") Like water off a duck's back.. ah well!

I've [posted as well

I feel left out, tell me where it is!

Keane scroll down to Hunker's links.. which will take you to the threads in question..

Just saw this thread. YES have been feeling like this. What really pissed me off was when I met my two NT friends yesterday with their 2 kids. One is almost exactly the same age as my ds. She was moaning about having to take her daughter to and fro to dancing lessons. I felt really annoyed, like at least she CAN do that ... grr. thank god for Mumsnet and a good moan.

omg, one has apoligised!!

LOl

heavens above i have only just read the whole thread!

Jessicamummy, I have a mobility car which is leased using DS' mobility allowence and DH has a small car which we are buying iwth DD1's mobility allowence... Oh hum......

Thanks for letting me sound off

Tell you what guys - I've gone from feeling the green eyed monster to being the red raging monster! How dare this bl**dy Heather carry on like that on this other site Sleepy Jess. Off to post myself (hurumpf)!!!!!!!!

Also LOL at the thought of anyone being ed off that they hijacked my thread, although I was initially amazed that I had got 124 responses!! This Heather has certainly taken my mind off things - silly c0w!!

LOL Merlot Glad you are cool about the 'hi-jacking'.. it was kinda relevent intitially.. I came on to your thread because I agreed with what you were saying.. and also in respect of wishing I was 'normal' enough to go out and and earn a living so that I did not have to be looked down on by the likes of Heather! Who, incidentally has gone a bit fluffy and inoffensive today, all of a sudden.. PML! (But don't let that put you off posting!)

Moondog, LOVELY eloqent post on there, you lady-of-the-canine-themes, you!

SJ x