Fukn SW, wat do u make of this?????!!!!!

[caitlinnjacksmummy]

Hi guys

I currently have a SW (with children with disabilities team) who comes out to see me because of Jack, she is one of many ppl coming into the house to see us

Anyway....I am not keen on her, she is very aloof and sort of "social worky" iyswim, nosy etc....nw the point is this woman would not be in my home in the first place if Jack wasn't classed as Disabled

I have cancelled her quite a few times and made up a story sometimes tht I am ill or watever as she annoys the f* outta me

Anyway there was one day I cancelled and my dd, 7 had bn not well and I took her to dr etc an told the SW on the phone

So....wen she came out next visit my dd was also present and the SW came in and asked my dd if she was better and "oh you had it along time" "I hear mummy took u to the dr"

Obv quizzing my 7 yr old, bitch, and has also sed that respite is not for spending time with my Dp who doesnt live hre btw, but I since turned respit dwn as I feel Jack is too young (20 months)

Wat the hell right has she to tell me wat I do with my time wn I have respite?!

Anyway, I cancelled our last visit, and I told her in a text that it was bcause Jack was goin thru a rough time again with seizures(as u all know) and tht it was a stressful time and to arrange another date

So.....she replied MUCH later on that she was very worried about me, to which I replied there is no need to worry as I just needed space as Jack had bn not well

She wrote bk she would see me this monday at 12pm, so I said ok, she has since went behind my back and contacted the HV who appeared at my door yesterday afternoon to check I was ok!!!!

She also sed tht the SW was quizzing her about when she last saw me etc.....!!!!

The hv sed also that the SW had no right to contact her...I am feckn livid....wat would u do? Gonna send her a VERY irate txt I think

And tell her I want someone else in future

I appreciate all yr comments but miyazaki the way u put across that wen I said you were being judgemental n u wrote that u thought i was writing that because not everyone agreed with me...maybe not abuse, and i am apologising for that, but i think also tht u were outta line for writing tht also

The reason I felt ppl were being judgemental is cos tht is wat I did believe, I also understand every1's points about the SW doing her job, but I can assure u all it's not cos I am stressed I posted this....it is because ths is hw I truly feel bout hw I have bn treated by SW

I just believe they r sneaky sometimes

I have some sympathy with you, having been in the position of having a god awful HV plaguing me when S was a baby. I think rather than irate texts/dodging her, if you have as nice a discussion as you can muster to try and arrange slightly less frequent visits that will look better to her. If you get on with your HV, then why not explain to her that you feel a bit overwhelmed by SW, see what she suggests to help the situation.

I think there trained to be sneaky ifykwim

but there is the rub,try be vigilant on the ball get called sneaky.miss something get pilloried

I only used the term sneaky cos caitlin used it, I think they are trained to look for ways to ask questions, but do agree that thats good.

I do apologise Miyazaki, for saying it was abuse, but I really have taken offence to wat u sed in yr last post...tht basically if ths is way I am with my SW then I shud take up the respite offer...that is disgraceful

U don't know me from adam, nw tht is judgemental...I realise this is a hard situation, can't do right for doing wrong but even my HV agreed tht the SW is full on and thought she was of a cheeky nature

Gawd, started world war 3 here

btw is there anyway you can have company - say a friend there when SW visits for moral support - I always found HV was nicer to me when others were around.

Hey totalchaos, tht is a good idea, I do def feel she looks dwn her nose at me, but I do look young for my age(I am nearly 28) and I def think sometimes this is partly to do with it....

I appreciate you saying sorry for the abuse comment. I can't be bothered going over the rest of your posts as I'm not interested in feeding some tit for tat posting sitch all night. You've been given lots of good advice on this thread - I think givemesleeporgivemechocolates post was lovely and very relevant. Hope things work out for you.

Hiya Miyazaki

No, I can't be bothered going over it again either, I'm not an argumentative or confrotational person, I'm one of the nicest ppl anyone cud meet, prob why I have gotten in ths predicament with the SW as I don't really wanna confront her, I'm not like that
so obv I'd rather cancel appointments lol

But just hate the thought of sittin SW dwn n telling her to bk off a bit, makes me cringe thinking about it, initially I felt angry at her, as I felt she'd went behind my bk to get the HV to check up on me and I felt that my word wasn't good enough for her that I am ok.....I told her I was fine and she arranged another appointment which is on Monday and yest when there is like only a few days to go until she sees me herself, she sends out the HV?

CM can someone else mediate with you both.can you write things down in a letter.i don't mean to upset you but your reticence and cancelling appts are ringing her bells.understandably she just has to see everything is ok

you have a lot on your plate and understandably are a bit raw and want to maintain and assert your own wishes

do try to mediate.dont be avoidant

hope things take a turn for the better

Thanku scottish mummy, yeah gonna have to do smethn, miby have a wee word wi her, altho am dreadin it...where r u from?

Am in Scotland too

it is so hard trying to maintain your privacy assert your wishes and keep the sw on board.unfortunately once in the system you have to sacrifices one privacy and accept their help

it needn't be so adversarial

really

do take care

Thnku scottishmummy