Really scared about my DD's op on monday, feel like I can't hand her over

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She is two and has a condition that makes her more vulnerable so anaesthetic is probably more risky for her although obviously they wouldn't do it if it was that risky as the op is something that has to be done but could be done now or any time in the next few years. I think its the choice thing that is upsetting me, I mean what if something went wrong and I have chosen for her to have this? Just can't function properly atm, one minute I am throwing myself into looking for a new car or shopping for whatever, the next I am convinced its all going to go wrong on monday and feel like being sick. I wish it was just monday in a way but don't want it to come too iyswim. I am also scared she'll get a cold or something and not be able to have it like happened last year several times before she actually had her anaesthetic. I wish I was religious.

Thanks Tclanger and I will try that. I hardly dare say it but TOUCH WOOD she hasn't had any snuffley-ness (you are allowed to make up words when very stressed I think!) this afternoon so it is possible its from having central heating on at night time as it seems to be a morning thing, and also when we come in from outside. I am trying not to get my hopes up too much though as she keeps fiddling with her ears and is prone to ear infections with colds, the last one was two weeks ago so everything crossed atm. I've kept her in today except a short walk this morning and tomorrow she is having a quiet day too so I so hope she stays ok for sunday/monday. I'm worried about making her go through blood tests then having the canula in and staying over night then being sent home in the morning because she is blocked up but I suppose its hard to know whats best so as long as she doesn't appear to have a cold by sunday I'll take her in I think.

SMBK, thank you and yes , it is that what if thing isn't it, because I chose for her to have this surgery done while she is small enought o hopefully forget it. I've known this was hanging over me since the day she wa born so in a way I'm surprised at how hard it has hit me because I seem to deal with everything ok most of the time, or at least was getting better at it.

My parents are very good and help out loads I just know that they are almost as worried asI am so it doesn't always help to voice my concerns. XP can be ok to talk to and we get on fairly well MOST of the time but not the same as having a supportive partner. In fact I like being single but the stress of all this is making me think it would be nice if there was someone for me iyswim. I am lucky enough to have brillianbt friends though. Oh talking of which, DD's little friend's mum gave her a book about hospital the day after we were talking about it on here. Perfect timing as I hadn't ordered one yet as couldn't find my card!

Oh just to add , no she hasn't got a temperature. Although we got cancelled before ecause she had a snotty nose, her specialist said it was ok to go ahead but the aneasthetist wasn't happy with it and refused. Which I can totally understand and would rather that than have something go wrong of course. I just think that he was worried about her condition and preffered to be ultra cautious.

Just bumping this to tell you all that my DD had her op on monday and it went fairly well. The op is in two stages and he said he'd try to do both at once but was unable to so she will need another but that was expected so I'm not too upset about that. She's got a cathter in which I'm finding hard as it got too full last night so I'll have to get p in the night and empty it tonight tonight I think to stop it happening again. Other than that she seems really well and its a job to keep her from climbing and pulling it out!

I'm so impressed by how well she has recovered and so grateful but feeling a bit low myself and struggling with the extra meds (she has always needed frequent medication but adding the ant biotics and pain relief etc makes it really a lot!) and catheter a bit hard but mainly just the stress it has caused and lack of sleep getting to me maybe. Anyway thank goodness she is home and it went well thanks for all your help.

As a seperate issue, I had a phone call from our community nurse today saying DD's speech therapy is being pushed through so she should get it fairly soon and I should ignore the letter that said it would take 13 to 18 weeks as she spoke to the speech thera[ist who feels she should see her sooner. This is very good of course but it has worried me that the speech therapist thinks it is such a concern.

Lovely news. Good luck.

Fantastic news, your dd may have had an unfortunate time but is very lucky to have such a lovely mum. Best wishes to you and dd (Get well soon) x

Thank you all, I am very pleased its over for now and can't wait to get the catheter out it needs emptying twice a night I discoered last night! She is doing so well though, had our first trip out this morning just a little walk to a cafe near by and a cream tea, she was so excited to be out.