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ds1's behaviour at home is out of contol

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Jimjams · 24/02/2005 20:29

he has been dreadful since the weekend. HAving got over the climbing over bannisters thing he is now just running around ricocheting off the walls. he has rediscovered throwing things but is throwing stuff to try and smash it (bye bye sugar bowl- and I've just had to remove from his room a china tractor that his aunt bought him as a baby). He is climbing everything and obsessively trying to look at things from certain angles 9wants us to open/shut windows and goes ape if we won't- and really ape- real headbanging meltdown type stuff. He's refusing to go to bed and keeps turning his light on then leaping round the place when he's meant to be sleeping.

So what do we do?

Tonight I have removed his bedroom light, and the hall light, have put up 2 travel barriers (one on top of the other) so that he can't climb out of the room. and now the entire house is in darkness- the idea being that if he can't see anything then he will lie down and go to sleep.

I feel like we are treating him like an animal- but I don't know what else to do. we don't have a punishment- he thinks being shouted at is hilarious, and after being awake for 4 hours last night is completely hyper. I feel like the only thing we can do is come down pn him like a ton of bricks, but I'm worried that if this bad behaviour is a delayed anxietyreaction to ds3 turning up then this will onloy make it worse. I'm trying to spend consturctive time with him and cuddling time after school, but its hard when he's constantly having to be pulled off various items of furntiture that he's climbing.

Feell very out of control and for the first time in a long time am unsure as to how I should be dealing with this. Help please!

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ThomCat · 25/02/2005 20:33

I'll come and see you Beets and take you with me for some mad fundraisng event for a campervan!

Beetroot · 25/02/2005 20:34

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emmatmg · 25/02/2005 20:34

I thank my lucky stars that I found MN as I knew nothing about Autism (or any other special needs TBH) before and it's really opened my eyes to a whole new world that people have to cope with and manage.

Trying not to be gushing here but I admire you so much, I really do.

If I ever win the jackpot on the Lottery I'll definately buy you a campervan..........and we have an awful lot of witnesses(sp?) hearing me say that!!!

tamum · 25/02/2005 20:35

Don't be daft Jimjams! (eek, can't believe I just said that ). What I mean is, it's very common to raise money for people/ children with SN to have a holiday, and essentially the only way ds1 can have a family holiday is in a camper van, isn't it? I don't see that as an unnecessary luxury at all.

ThomCat · 25/02/2005 20:36

Think I might have taled myself out of another skydive, can only remeber the fear now!
Been there, done that, and got the t-shirt, literally, but up for some more fundraising, just not sure how to raise it yet. Can;t do running or bikes.

tamum · 25/02/2005 20:37

Any second now someone is going to suggest a MN topless calendar.....

ThomCat · 25/02/2005 20:39

(said in the Farside style of the dog whispering to his owner to put the cat out!)
Or is it just me that knows what I'm talking about?!!!

ThomCat · 25/02/2005 20:39

How about a mumsnet topless calender?!

tamum · 25/02/2005 20:40

Oh, I'd forgotten that cartoon! I understood (P.S. I was joking about the calendar, honest)

Beetroot · 25/02/2005 20:41

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ThomCat · 25/02/2005 20:42

jimjams, I'll get mine out for you!

Beetroot · 25/02/2005 20:44

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ThomCat · 25/02/2005 20:45

If it's chilly i'll need my muff!

ThomCat · 25/02/2005 20:46

I just made myself really laugh then. Red wine is helping!

Blossomhill · 25/02/2005 20:46

oh er Thomcat.

Beetroot · 25/02/2005 20:47

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dejags · 25/02/2005 20:48

Jimjams - just wanted to tell you that I follow your ups downs with DS1 and I think you are a wonderful mum. Your DS's are lucky to have you.

ThomCat · 25/02/2005 20:48

I'll race you to it Beety

Beetroot · 25/02/2005 20:49

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Jimjams · 25/02/2005 20:49

ROFL @ mumsnet topless calender. better do mine whilst I'm still breastfeeding - after that they'll wither away to nothing.

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soapbox · 25/02/2005 20:51

Jimjams - I've been following this thread but have felt so damned inadequate. Just don't know what to say Certainly nothing that would make a difference!

On a practical level though, I do have lots of housy mags - would it be any use to you if I sent them to you for DS1???

I've no idea of anything else I can possibly suggest that would lighten your load - but be assured if you can think of anything then I will do all I can to help

In the meantime, as limp as it sounds, I'll be thinking of you!

Jimjams · 25/02/2005 20:52

oh gosh soapbox ds1 would like that-- especially ones with washing machine ads

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soapbox · 25/02/2005 20:53

I'll CAT you then

A scrapbook of washing machines???????

soapbox · 25/02/2005 20:56

Jimjams - have just sent you a CAT