Helloooo MrsF - back now ds is tucked up in bed (for now at least) and I have the pc back again!
Where do I start? I took my sister with me for support and I honestly think in hindsight that as soon as the head knew she was not PP she could relax and behave badly...which she did.
I went prepared with notes for me as a prompt/reminder, 3 copies of an agenda and all the up to date paperwork/reports. I think she was a bit shocked at the agenda but I had a lot to cover. She laughed and said "he has no earthly chance" when my first question was would the school help me start the statementing process, next she said that as a parent herself "if I had as little faith in the school as you do, I would remove my child from the school". I asked her what exactly she was implying although it was bloody obvious. She just repeated what she had said again.
I was told after about 15 minutes that she felt I was rude and aggressive (crap - I was courteous and never raised my voice once). She constantly spoke over me and I asked her several times not to do this.
She told me that the "professionals" at the liaison meeting in late Jan thought it best not to have the school/home book in place anymore. (he has had one in nursery and school since he was 2) and that she was telling me now - 2 weeks later - that it would not be used anymore. She asked me "do you still want him to have a home/school book when he was 18?". I admit to telling her that was a very stupid question. When I said that now my means of communication with the school had been taken away, I would have to phone or write letters she replied "are you threatening me?" WTF?!!!! Where did that come from?
She told me that what I called "bullying" was not bullying if it was not done by the same child each time! We are now on the 6th (3 of them were tantamount to assault) incident and still they are not taking it seriously!
I was also told that I was overprotective of my son (he's 7) and that he had to take ownership of his behaviour.
Typing this stuff just makes me realise even more how ludicrous this woman is! I could go on, but they were the hilights (or lowlights) of the meeting (which incidentally was only meant to last half an hour before her next appointment" but actually went on for an hour and a quarter.
I said that I felt that it had been a waste of time, however she felt that the meeting had been of benefit. I am NOT going to let this one go - and even though I know my ds is going to have to move schools, she isn't getting off this lightly. I will continue when he has left to show her for what she is. No wonder her SENCo acted like she did if she has that woman as an example.
What happens now? Any suggestions would be welcome....even the horrible ones!