My family are so rubbish sometimes!

[monkeypie]

I am really fed up with the way my parents and my brother and his wife really don't seem to give a crap about what i'm going through with ds. My mum has been round to see me and didn't even ask about the dates for assessment EVEN though she knew i was getting them today Arrgghh, sometimes, just sometimes i would like her and them to ASK me about stuff rather than me have to tell them and they go, 'oh sorry yeh i forgot'!!??
It's something so massive for me, i hardly slept last night knowing i was getting the phone call and she doesn't even know because she FORGOT to ask AGAIN!

Am i being too precious about ds or i am right to feel let down and quite frankly a bit alone right now? He is their grandchild and nephew for gods sake, at least act like you're interested. Ohhh i am really worked up, i don't ask for much but a bit of support would be nice every now and again.

They all think i'm wrong but no-one dare say it and if they ignore it of course it will get better by magic as you all know!!
Sorry to go on but needed to vent!

hi monkeypie

sorry your feeling so down too

my mum is great and understanding but my dp dad and step mum are very snobbish people always boasting how bright there grandson is

took us ages to admit we had fears but there response was dont you think autism is just flavour of the month at the moment its eveywhere you look people being diagnosed

he'll be ok look theres nothing wromg with him

as an outsider maybe he doesnt look as if anythings wromg but playschool SALT and us as his parents feel there is nothing to major but something is not right

then you get the stories our friends boy didnt talk untill he was 5 he'll be fine
step mums sons are high flighers in london and they love to brag so dont know how they'll feel if something is up with our ds

just remember we are going to feel the affects of this more as we love our dc in a different way that grandparents do we automaticallyn have that protective button that when pushed put sus in melt down

it doesnt mean they dont care they could be in denial as they dont see what we see they dont investigate it and worry as much as we do as wree trying to find answers we are practically diagnosing our own dc and scaring ourselves

just accept that while we go through this others do not understand but accept that and just try to educate them and tell them your fears good luck as you know i'm exactly where you are at the moment xx

needmorecoffee big hugs to you sorry your having a tough time xx

((((NMC and pipinJo)))) I wish i lived near you guys.

at in laws tellng your eldest you just want the attention! They should be ashamed.
I know how you feel about being resentful when they have loads of money and you are skint, the hols etc. My brother and his wife have booked a hol this yr with their 2 sons to Disney land florida, i don't begrudge them that, he works hard and earns the money for it fine. But they also have their own hol villa in Bulgaria which i have never been offered to go stay at either with or without them, thanks! Then to top it off last week sis-in law who has no tact at all was moaning about the hol she was trying to book for her and bro(with NO KIDS) in a couple of months she could only spend about £650 on OHHH YOU POOR WOMAN

Jesus i just sat there and had to stop myself sitting on her head.
I dread the bills coming in and and the bank statements, something she has no idea about.
So i can totally appreciate you feeling like crap, if i could i would come round with a bottle of wine and we could put the world to rights.

PipinJo what is wrong with our parents???
My mum had her other 2 grandsons too so my brothers wife could work, but now she is 'too old' apparently

Stay strong with the ex and don't let him get to you too much. Mine never showed his face once i was 4 months preg and i say 'AMEN' to that, he would have made our lives hell.

Families eh? Lots of hugs to all of you.

Thanks PipinJo i will contact you i appreciate that!
Thanks to everyone for sharing some of the probs you have/have had with your families. It's silly now when i think about it but i really did believe it was only me that had a wierd rubbish family. I just assumed everyone else had loads of support and i'm shocked how many of you had the same problems, it's a bit sad really, bloody thank god for MN hey!?