Mail on Sunday Magazine

[lottiejenkins]

I found this article today..........I thought it was very moving,,,, what a decision that lady made... dont think i could do it though!
www.mailonsunday.co.uk/pages/you/article.html?in_article_id=522925&in_page_id=1908

oh the fundraising was weird. Fucking symbolism again.

I mean what use is a bloody symbolic family?

Has anyone posted on the BBC ?
Or anywhere else ?
I feel that only one message is being heard, once of acceptance and congratulations for her bravery.
This is certainly not what I feel, or what other MN's feel, by the looks of it.

I want to. But some other posters are so much more eloquent. Plus, I don't know why I am so upset by this story. I don't feel taht I am able to really judge, becasue I don't have a disabled child.

I feel really strongly about this too and also don't feel I have a right to as I have no idea what it's like. But this is just wrong on every level imo. and it makes me so that this is seen as normal. because it bloody well isn't. And that this woman is seen as brave because she abandoned her child when she was just 5 months old because she didn't fit in with her ideal of the perfect family. And yet there are people on this website and throughout society that spend their lives caring for their severely disabled children not because it makes them brave, or heroes, or because they want recognission/praise for it, but because they're doing what every normal parent does and are bringing up their children.

It's women like her that ensure that society will continue to hold the view that the disabled are something to be removed from one's life, to be treated differently and to be avoided at all costs. .

I hope no-one buys her book.

I'm tempted to go and write a review on it on amazon

I've posted - I'm being "pre-moderated" as a new poster.....

I've tried to post on the BBC before and never managed it (not because of moderation because of BBC's stupid web system).

would it be worth contacting the bbc about this? someone like victoria derbyshire or whoever does the phone-ins on r4 for instance?

the fact that this woman can promote her book and this one-sided view is constantly being spouted is just wrong, surely the opposing view should be allowed too?

I too have posted and am being pre-moderated.
bet it won't get on there.

It would also be worth highlighting this to India Knight for her blog.

Ive posted, and have asked if any of the money is going to help Immie? Isnt it interesting that the mother has only posted once?

How many meesages till this thread is full? I think it should continue when this thread is full.

Hi five oblomov - we've said our bit.
here and here
Chonky - yes definitely one for India Knight. Just to try to redress this woman's obvious media connections, which means only her story gets heard.

I'll try and write something later when the boys are in bed. Well done for posting.

Some years ago we looked at adoption and were told stories of couples who had struggled for years unsupported with very challenging children, and in the end had to put them back into the care system as older teenagers. They had to contribute to the care costs. I assume this would apply to natural parents also! However perhaps it is different if you abandone the child!!!
This reminds me of a classic film about a homeless mother who had to abandon her child (having pre arranged for the sw to wait in place to 'find' him and whilst watching from behind a tree to ensure his safty) in order to get help for the child she could not feed or house.
This is entirely different situation. But I still think there must be something missing in this story! I cannot cope with the idea that anyone would give up a child they had brought into this world (much less abandon them) for trivial reason such as not fitting in!!
For many years my son showed no sign of loving or even liking me - but I always knew he needed me and could see progress. As HITC so eliquently said it made me even more protective! Now he definatly enjoys my love and care for him and loves us all. I do not know what it would have been like to assume that nothing would ever change - no responce - no recognition as presumably this lady was told by the neuro!
I still cannot make sense of this story and it continues to trouble me.

Headgirl, waaaahhhh, good for us eh ?
I posted again, you know - ha ha. I couldn't wait and thought it might not be added. I love your post. It is brilliant. well done you.

I know Fio. The more I think about it, the harder it is for me to express on just how many levels I am unsettled by the story.
Have emailed India Knight via her blog. The opera woman and beardy are not the only members of the chattering classes with media links.....
Hopefully India will address it, she covers many news stories involving SN? Although her blog is not updated regularly.

OK I'm in moderation.....

It's garbed because I was trying not to let rip.