Primary School Auties 11: 2023 is here

[openupmyeagereyes]

Thread 11.

This is a thread for the parents & carers of children with additional needs. Most of us have autistic/ADHD children in primary school, but anybody is welcome to join us to chat x

Links to previous threads below.

Thread 1
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3080753-DS-with-ASD-starting-school-Sept-2018-I-am-feeling-overwhelmed
Thread 2
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3451020-Reception-auties-2018-19-thread-2
Thread 3
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3628263-Auties-transition-to-Year-1-thread-3
Thread 4
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3748449-Primary-school-Auties-into-2020-thread-4
Thread 5
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/3953023-Primary-school-auties-summer-and-beyond-thread-5?pg=1
Thread 6
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/4166833-Primary-school-auties-spring-2021-and-beyond-thread-6?pg=1
Thread 7
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/4303826-Primary-school-auties-summer-and-the-new-academic-year-thread-7
Thread 8
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/4422100-Primary-school-auties-step-into-Christmas-and-the-New-Year-thread-8
Thread 9
www.mumsnet.com/talk/special_needs/4502988-Primary-school-auties-thread-9-spring-summer-2022
Thread 10
www.mumsnet.com/talk/special_needs/4592899-primary-school-auties-10-summer-and-beyond-2022?page=1

[openupmyeagereyes]

New year, new thread!

[openupmyeagereyes]

Whoops, posted too soon.

Ahna you’re in survival mode with two young dc and so little sleep. Try not to think about the weddings until you know what form they’ll take, plus they may be a year off yet. It is hard though, I went to a friend’s wedding by myself last year because it would have been impossible for us all to go.

carrie I hope you’re a lot better now, are you working today?

Ds up v early again, and although it wasn’t my turn to get up I didn’t manage to get back to sleep. I’m having a

[dimples76]

Thanks for starting a new thread Open.

[carriebradshawwithlessshoes]

Thank you Open for this! Yes I’m working today. Is it inappropriate to pop a Moët whilst zooming clients? Stick it in a tea cup?

kids went off ok. Halle bloody lujah.

Open you asked me a little while ago about the cost of the genetic tests and private eeg. Latter 2.5, genetics 6.5. So guess that’s ££££££. Just got those numbers.

hope everyone’s ok 😀

[openupmyeagereyes]

I don’t know about the Moet but I’ve just had cheese & biscuits for lunch. We’ve still got Christmas cheese. And a ton of chocolate.

[carriebradshawwithlessshoes]

Oooo sounds lovely!!

[openupmyeagereyes]

Re. costs, at least you can decide what you’re going to do now.

[openupmyeagereyes]

I wish we had grapes but I forgot to order some. Had to make do with a satsuma.

[Jules912]

Back to work here today too, though kids have an inset so are downstairs with DH. DD won't admit she's nervous about going back to school, but has been extra clingy all day. DS is ill again, he seems to get a headache or tummy ache or both every 2-3 weeks. I can't work out if he's just had a string of viruses or it's something more as he seems absolutely fine in between. Really hope he's well for school tomorrow.

[openupmyeagereyes]

That sounds difficult Jules, poor ds. Hope he’s better soon.

[Ponderingthemeaningoflife]

Hello, wonder if I could join?

My DS is 7, year 2. He doesn't have a diagnosis but his school will be putting an IDP in place for him in the new year.

[openupmyeagereyes]

Hi Ponderingthemeaningoflife, welcome to the thread. Is an IDP the Welsh equivalent of an EHCP? How has Christmas been for you?

Quiet day here as dh back at work and we can’t go out due to lurgy. Ds has had more screen time than ever these hols. Have to rein it back slowly. I have started taking the Christmas decorations down but hope to do most of it tomorrow.

We have new toys lying around everywhere and ds’ birthday soon - help!

[Ponderingthemeaningoflife]

Hi @openupmyeagereyes , yes it’s replaced EHCPs, statements etc here in Wales. DS is doing well academically, and is pretty happy at school, but would benefit from support with attention, concentration, emotional regulation and literacy and things like group work. It’s all very new for me although I’ve known he’s neurodivergent for a while.

[Ponderingthemeaningoflife]

Christmas was good thanks, DS isn’t prone to meltdowns but I had a bit of a rubbish Christmas Day in 2021 as we’d missed the mark with his gifts and he was grumpy and rude all day. He was pretty good this year, one or two grumps aside. How was yours?

[openupmyeagereyes]

Ours was good. Ds loves Christmas and opening, as well
as giving, gifts. He had his dinner at the table, pulled crackers etc. Having said that, he still spends a lot of the day doing his usual things. That’s probably the main difference to NT Christmas, I suppose.

I hope back to school & work is going ok for everyone.

[carriebradshawwithlessshoes]

Open, if you don’t mind me asking (weddings in my head at the mo as per my post upthread!) what was the issue with DS attending your friends wedding? He sounds so much more capable than my DS in a lot you say (mine as said above would be wanting to run/ shout/ have no social observance of the ceremony/ meal time and so on, still trying to work out what to do about that.)

if you had said to him the 3 of you were going how would he be?

for us DS would be happy going, it’s everyone else that wouldn’t be …

[openupmyeagereyes]

carrie he just wouldn’t have wanted to stay so either me or dh would have spent all day in the hotel or elsewhere with him. We wouldn’t have been able to enjoy it so we made the decision for me to go alone as it was my friend’s wedding. Due to the age of the B&G there were no young children there anyway and it would not have been very exciting for him.

[carriebradshawwithlessshoes]

Makes sense, that may be my plan!

[openupmyeagereyes]

It was the right decision, I had a fantastic weekend.

[carriebradshawwithlessshoes]

It’s nice to be invited to a wedding! All our friends married years ago when we did (tho DHs closest friend is now on wife no 4!). My cousins a lot younger but I can’t tell you the last time I went to one!!!

[dimples76]

In my late 20s I went to so many weddings- one year I went to 7. I was sick of them, especially as then as now I was single. I agree now it would be nice to go to one. We went to an evening do in November (wedding was abroad) and the kids coped but a whole wedding I think not! When my sister got married DS was 2 and kept shouting out - fortunately everyone thought that it was cute, he would probably do the same aged 9 but I don't think that strangers would be so indulgent now.

[carriebradshawwithlessshoes]

Glad not just my DS then Dimples! I agree re the run of weddings tho for me it was more early/ mid 30s when we all married.

Bit of good news for once, had to pop into school this morning and DS teacher said he’s much improving in terms of focus, communication (using pecs), and joining in. There is another boy who is quite quiet and therefore not intimating to DS and they are apparently becoming quite good friends. His accuracy with work is therefore better because he’s paying more attention. Yesterday they asked what he wanted at snack time and gave him his pecs book. He apparently then asked for a banana!!! She said she has never moved as fast to give him one!

[dimples76]

That's great news, Carrie! Well done to your DS

Now the hols are over I am trying to reduce screen time. I forgot how much work that generates for me! DS was not happy with any of my activity ideas

[openupmyeagereyes]

That is great news carrie. Love that they were desperate to reward him too.

Now the hols are over I am trying to reduce screen time. I forgot how much work that generates for me! DS was not happy with any of my activity ideas

Same here, lots of annoying screeching when it’s time for the TV to go off 😬

[Jules912]

That's great news Carrie.
DD was actually ok going back on Wednesday but had a compete meltdown about going today. She eventually walked in with the ELSA.