Honestly I’m sick of all this with the taxi now.
She is nice, I do get on with her, she’s lovely to ds and he likes her, but she’s driving me mad with the whole child whisperer act.
She doesn’t like telling ds school if he’s played up in the taxi, she’s done it from the start, they say every morning, how’s he been? She says oh absolutely fine! Regardless.!
He could of literally set her engine on fire and her arrive with smoke bellowing from the engine and she’ll say oh he’s been perfect 🤣 ds teacher has commented on it before, he said does the taxi tell you about any bad behaviour? As she always says he’s fine but he doesn’t look in a ‘fine’ mood. I mean he knows ds and knows there’s no chance he’s good every day. I briefly told him she’s a bit of a jobsworth and takes offence if people think she doesn’t manage him and to take what she says with a pinch of salt, it’s clearly evident when he arrives at school half undressed because he’s stripped in the taxi that’s he’s not been ‘fine’, doesn’t she realise this.
she claims to me she doesn’t want to get him into trouble (which I explained he never gets into trouble at school, it’s genuinely not how they are. They don’t punish the kids for things they do at school never mind in the taxi!)
What it is really (just what I think and I’m not usually wrong 🤣), she coins in on ds run, (£310 a week for the driver and then the PA is paid £10 per hour for 2 hours a day, ds transport costs £410 a week in total) and she’s worried people will think she’s not managing him as she’s said before one of her drivers lost a run because of not being in control of the child, she kisses her own arse that much and thinks she’s mother Theresa she said she was going to try get the run becuase she’s clearly better at sorting these unruly children 🥴.) And also there’s an element of her thinking she’s a parenting god (maybe to normal children but kids with additional needs it’s entirely a different kettle of fish, so she’s embarrassed if he’s playing her up because she takes offence at not being able to control him. (Join the club, I’ve not had any control over him since January 2014!)
Well ds is really stressed with this PA and he keeps attacking her, Monday he marked all her face and ripped a handful of her hair out and today he’s ripped her hoop earring out and bruised all her leg (she showed me purple bruises up her shin) nipped all her arms and done the same purple bruising to her arm, this was on the way to school this morning.
They told me when they dropped him back off, so I said have you told school? She said NO! Why would i? It’s not a school issue, what goes on in my taxi is nothing to do with them, so I said well actually if he’s stressed on the way to school it has a knock on affect and he’s heightened / overstimulated before he gets to school….
do you know what she said to me? No that’s not how he is. He can be naughty at school and fine on the way home and visa versa. It had no relevance to school how he was in the taxi this morning.
I said I beg your pardon! How patronising to his mum to tell me how he works? I think I have a grasp on his needs a bit better than a taxi driver ffs. Of course it has a knock on affect (effect? Fuck knows what word it should be lol) if he’s arriving stressed he won’t instantly switch into a better mood. It’s setting him up for the day.
Anyway I get an email from school at 4pm, ds arrived at school really unsettled. Did x y z (array of challenging behaviour) has been unable to access any learning at all, (done zero work) he’s spent his day in the sensory room and on the school field as he’s been so unregulated.
So I’ve just messaged back, get X (teacher) to ring me tomorrow please and I’ll explain to him.
Ds hates his new PA he’s battering her every day and the taxi is saying he just has to get used to her (6 weeks later…)
No! ds told me she talks to much and makes him stressed. I text taxi this and she said pa is a bit loud and ott and she told Pa not to talk until ds initiated it but today ds said she kept talking to taxi driver about painkillers, so he’s attacked her again (would be easier to just say stop talking please) but obviously he doesn’t work like that.
So her withholding info (for whatever the reason is) from school is pissing me off, its really important because it will be why he’s arriving stressed out and it’s massively impacting upon his day, because hes already stressed when he arrives, I’m going to tell his teacher everything tomorrow, imagine he carried it on, taxi didn’t say anything. School might think they aren’t managing his needs at school and kick him out unaware that there is something specific setting him off. Because the taxi is saying ‘he’s been fine’ so school will only have to assume it’s something at school.
She’s that much of a parenting guru but she doesn’t understand that?. 🥴