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Did Gess really delete her membership

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Twiglett · 27/09/2007 22:06

I sincerely hope that you didn't Gess. And I hope you're loitering with intent to return if you did.

I have to say you have my utmost respect, you have taught me much, not that you wish to be a teacher. You have been unfailingly helpful and kind. There have been times when you have acknowledged my input positively and I have felt really proud.

You are an extremely important part of this site to me. I know that we do not cross paths as often as in the past. I know that this is not the place you wish it to be any more.

Even if you don't return, I hope you understand that you are valued and respected.

Twig

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BigBeeristheBigBeer · 28/09/2007 21:15

Hear hear Magsi!

scoobyww · 28/09/2007 21:22

I wholeheartedly agree with all of the above and just want to add....that if it were not from the support of Gess, peachy, 2shoes, coppertop, et all - who supported me so much when I was in a very dark place last Christmas - I am not sure I would be here to tell the tale.

Come back Gess.

mamazon · 28/09/2007 21:34

im hardly on at the moment and so have no idea what was said that has caused Gess to feel she needs to leave.

all i can do is echo everyone on this thread that say MN will be a lesser place without you

i really do hoep you reconsider and return. you have a great deal of wisdom that will surely be missed

Dinosaur · 28/09/2007 22:08

So sorry she's gone.

chonky · 28/09/2007 22:40

Me too dino

Hope you come back Gess - you will be very much missed (we need you!).

Davros · 28/09/2007 23:03

Bollocks! Some people can't bear to be challenged.... even when it is done fairly, intelligently and openly as Gess has always done. A lesson in why so many of us stick to SN only. Gess is someone for whom I would say I feel true friendship, having "met" through MN. Missed it all... will email her tomorrow.

lucyellensmum · 28/09/2007 23:27

Shit, i saw that thread and i was gobsmacked when i saw it was directed at gess. I posted on it to offer my support but then it was deleted. PErhaps gess has got pissed off with the way things have got a bit bitchtastic on here lately. But yes, we have definately lost a valued member and this is what happens i guess when all those bitchy threads go unchallenged, i suppose it makes people forget that we are all people with feelings that get hurt, i wonder if because we dont actually see or know each other it is easy to post thoughtless stuff. I am very sorry to see gess go, didnt she have a break before though to do some work? maybe she is needing a work break again? Hopefully she will be back, and hopefully, she will realise how much she is respected.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/09/2007 23:44

Couldnt agree more lucyellen.

maddiemostmerry · 29/09/2007 12:37

I don't get time to post much anymore but i am sad to read this.
gess must be such a busy person but she always found the time to give out such solid advice and support to people.

Gess, i don't know if you will get to read this but I have been so impressed by the knowledge you have and that you take the time to impart it to others.

edam · 29/09/2007 12:38

I hope the nasty piece of work who drove her off the boards is feeling very ashamed.

WelshBoris · 29/09/2007 12:42

I'm gutted Gess has gone. Really I am.

She is patient, mind blowingly intelligent and honest. Not many posters left like her.

Because they're being driven away.

Am quite TBH

Blu · 29/09/2007 12:54

gess's experience and willingness to share it is a huge, huge resource on MN.

My feeling about gess is that she is not a 'flouncer' but that sometimes - and I have no basis , right or wish to speak specifically on behalf of Gess - is that the balance of MN can tip for many people once they need to use energy dealing with the way things are discussed, rather than the topic being discussed. Energy giving information and advice is one thing - and Gess has many times previously commented that it is sometimes hard for her to use MN as a distraction or recreation from RL because of the number of people queuing up to ask her qustions. If someone also has to defend themselves against other peole's feelings about her, maybe, jjust maybe, this tips the balance and means tha MN is no longer of net benefit in someone's life. I quite often feel drained and exasperated by the number of discussions that descend into personal reactions and arguments, rather than challenging debate and support.

Hope you can get plenty of support through other less highly charged networks, Gess.

Christie · 29/09/2007 13:37

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2mum · 29/09/2007 13:52

Sorry to hear this Ive learnt many things from reading Gess`s posts. Hope she is keeping ok and and that her leaving wont be permanent.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 29/09/2007 16:45

I know exactly what you mean blu.

AitchTwoOh · 29/09/2007 16:50

yep, blu, i imagine the downside of being as well-respected as Gess is that she is giving support more than receiving it, and if it's descended into personal insults she may well ask if it's worth it.
och well, everything changes... i didn't see more than a few lines of the thread in question and i'm sure it was borne of frustration and i'm sure the OP isn't a bad sort either, tbh. tough, though, that it's come to this and we all of us have to lose out on Gess's company for the want of one person keeping her thoughts to herself.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 29/09/2007 16:54

You are very generous Aitch

AitchTwoOh · 29/09/2007 16:58

seriously vvv, she's not a bad sort. a bit gobby, yes, but she's a decent woman from what i've seen. that said, i didn't see the rest of the thread so i don't know what took place.

but gess is probably doiing the right thing by taking a step back if it got to her, because she's got enough on her plate, she doesn't need more hassle here. i hope she'll come back soon, though.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 29/09/2007 22:33

Oh I'm just not feeling very charitable of late aitch, pay no heed to me.

It just all seems like a broken record in some respects on here lately and I've run out of patience with it. My bad.

Perhaps I should join gess on her sabbatical.

2shoes · 29/09/2007 22:36

don't you dare vvv I need to hear about your wedding

expatinscotland · 29/09/2007 22:36

Fuck!

I just sent her an email.

Been gone for a few days with the move.

WTF happened?

saggarmakersbottomknocker · 29/09/2007 22:38

Oi VVQV Get yerself back on the Runner's thread. You are AWOL.

Did the move go smoothly expat?

AitchTwoOh · 29/09/2007 22:39

have you been RUNNING, vvv???!!!

AitchTwoOh · 29/09/2007 22:41

i do hear ya, btw. and i didn't read the thread, as i say. personally i love it round here when there's a good debate, but recently it's just been stupid, wanky, insulting kick-offs.

stleger · 29/09/2007 22:41

Gess, if you are around, I am often amazed and always fascinated by how you handle your own family life, and the help you give to other people. The insight you give into autism is great. I hope you are around again soon.