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Did Gess really delete her membership

121 replies

Twiglett · 27/09/2007 22:06

I sincerely hope that you didn't Gess. And I hope you're loitering with intent to return if you did.

I have to say you have my utmost respect, you have taught me much, not that you wish to be a teacher. You have been unfailingly helpful and kind. There have been times when you have acknowledged my input positively and I have felt really proud.

You are an extremely important part of this site to me. I know that we do not cross paths as often as in the past. I know that this is not the place you wish it to be any more.

Even if you don't return, I hope you understand that you are valued and respected.

Twig

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alycat · 28/09/2007 09:25

Good Lord! It can't be true?

I, for one, shall miss her sensible and supportive advice.

I saw the start of deleted thread (10 posts or so) but have been logged off due to DS' illness.

Gess, I can't imagine what happened but you will be sorely missed as a voice of intellegent reason.

mummy2aaron · 28/09/2007 09:35

I think it will be a very sad sn board without her tbh.

Anchovy · 28/09/2007 09:35

Hmm, if it is the thread I was thinking of it was passive aggressive behaviour at its absolute worst and I for one think it was a disgrace. If I were Gess I would be livid and I'm not surprised she wants to cool off a bit.

I have always really valued her contribution and would be very sorry if she felt driven away.

Turquoise · 28/09/2007 09:38

Really sad to hear this.

I don't know at what point that thread was deleted, but I thought it was despicable and said so.

Absolutely echo Twig and everyone else, and can see why she would want to go but value, respect, and will miss her.

anniebear · 28/09/2007 09:44

another who is sad to read this

Please pass on to Gess that I hope she returns soon, she has always posted on my threads and had good advice for the past 5 years I ahve been on here

staryeyed · 28/09/2007 10:04

it cant be true can it? [Falls to knees]NOooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. Just last night I was thinking about how much you have helped me by answering my different threads. Please don't leave. I dont know what the thread was about but whoever said whatever you are very valued and loved please dont let someone stop you using MN.

lourobert · 28/09/2007 10:07

Im afriad that i cant keep up with mumsnet as much as I would like so I am not sure what has gone on. Can someone explain or will that just be dragging it up again?? I hate to think of anyone being upset

Gess is obviously a valued member by many many on here so I hope shes feels as though she wants to return very soon.

francagoestohollywood · 28/09/2007 10:18

Has she really gone? Never crossed paths often with Gess, but I really liked her. Come back gess!

pagwatch · 28/09/2007 10:28

If anyone is in touch with Gess could they pass on to her my best wishes.
If she needs a big time out after being burned, I am not terribly surprised. I think she just must have thought - why am I bothering here. But I hope if she persues that thought to its natural conclusion then she will remember that the time she gives to this board, whilst fraught with conflict and occasional nonsense, does actually help many here - me included.
I hope she has a well earned break. But I sincerely hope she comes back to those of us who welcome her wisdom and support.
Lourobert - I think it would just drag it all up again and it was unpleasant enough first time.

tibni · 28/09/2007 10:37

Spoke to her last night and she is e mailing me later. I will pass on all your support.

wannaBe · 28/09/2007 12:51

no no you can't go.

I don't know what the thread in question was about but I do think that it's wrong that people seem to be allowed to upset others to the point that they feel they have to leave while the offenders are just left to carry on.

So who was it so we can hunt them down and kill them!

dustystar · 28/09/2007 13:02

I hope you are ready to come back soon gess - you will be sorely missed I didn't read the offending thread but please don't let that put you off forever. Your kind words, knowledge and advice have really helped me and others - especially on the SN board. xx

tortoiseSHELL · 28/09/2007 13:03

Gess, if you are reading MN, you are such an inspirational poster, I am very sorry you have felt you had to leave. I hope when you are ready you feel able to return. xxx

anniebear · 28/09/2007 13:06

Just out of interest , are the other main parenting sites as nasty as Mumsnet can be? (not SN section of course!!!)

I enjoy reading through Mumsnet and sometimes post! But in the last 6 months or so, I am very very careful what I posted as fearful of some one having a go at me!!

Are they all the same or is this one just higher up on the nasty stakes?

nailpolish · 28/09/2007 13:08

come back gess

deeeja · 28/09/2007 13:21

OH NO!
I can't believe Gess has gone!
I haven't been here long, but she gave me some great advice.
PLESE COME BACK!

bullet123 · 28/09/2007 13:39

Hope you come back Gess.

Lovecat · 28/09/2007 15:31

Gess, if you're reading this I do hope you come back to MN.

You were kind enough to give your time to offer help and advice to me on several occasions when I was at my wits end with dd's (very minor!) issues and I know I'm not the only one who has benefited from such kindness.

I've been off MN for a few days so don't know what happened, but I do hope you return.

Bink · 28/09/2007 16:06

Oh dear.
This is very sad.
Adding my support, and a bit of despair that a different sort of solution isn't available. As I think how Gess was treated was, basically, pernicious.

flyingmum · 28/09/2007 16:51

I didn't read the offending thread and yes I do think some people on MN are way more offensive compared to the other message board I use (except for SEN). I am genuinely sorry that Gess feels the need to depart. She has always offered a very wise voice of experience and humanity that perhaps others need to cultivate. It does piss me off (although as I said I don't know what was said but having read other pretty near the bone threads I can make an educated guess) that people are up in arms at the merest wiff of their child being bullied but are quite happy to be bullies themselves made doubly worse by the cloak of anonymity which protects them. One wonders at the values with which their children are imbued - perhaps they are like the particularly repulsive boy who tried to bully me in my own classroom today (unsuccessfully). Gess, all the best to you and your family. Your lack of trumpet blowing and flag waving over this clearly picks you out as being a fab person and as a relative newbie i will miss you so heaven knows what the 'old hands' feel.

edam · 28/09/2007 17:37

I didn't see the thread in question, but another thread has made me wonder... was there one poster in question who was terribly offensive to Gess?

suedonim · 28/09/2007 17:39

I didn't see the thread involved but am if Gess has gone as a result of it. She has been helpful to me when I've asked for info and I've also gleaned a lot from her posts over the years.

Blandmum · 28/09/2007 17:54

A thread was started which was , to quote Justine, 'a thinly veiled attack on a specific poster'. It was an attack on gess.

The thread has been pulled by mn. the op did appologise.

But it was a shitty thread

sphil · 28/09/2007 18:00

I've been in email contact - I'm sure she'll be touched to know how much support there is for her on here.

AitchTwoOh · 28/09/2007 18:02

how utterly, utterly weird. of all the people who could do with a slap on here... gess just isn't one of them.

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