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lou33 · 02/10/2004 16:47

Ok, now it's really really getting to me atm, the amount of times I am hearing this word used as a form of humour, to take the piss out of other people etc. Some of you might remember my tirade against Richard Curtis (thank you everyone who joined in with that) for using it in Love Actually. And recently I wrote to the editor at the Daily Telegraph about an article regarding the paralypmics, and one journalist's viewpoint that it wasn't worth the airspace (no reply from them, but lots of letters printed agreeing with the journo in question, interestingly enough)

Now I've rattled off another email to channel 4 and ofcom, about the tv programme "Make me a perfect wife". Did anyone notice one of the husbands calling his wife a spastic? Icing on the cake, as dh was sitting next to a bunch of people in a pub at the weekend listening to them calling each other spastics, and doing their version of impersonations.

I am so sick and tired of people thinking it is ok to insult and make fun of disabled people. Bet Channel 4 wouldn't dream of lettting racist or religious abuse through , so why are disabled people fair game? I could possibly understand it, if the programme was about the ignorant attitudes of certain parts of society today, but it wasn't at all relevent to the programme itself.

Anyway, if anyone had read this far, and wants to see what I wrote, here it is:

"I am writing regarding the first programme of the above series and to register a complaint.

Can you please tell me why Channel 4, while filming the lives of these people, running it through editing, and checking for final viewing, allowed, or thought it acceptable to include a speech from one of the husbands, in which he calls his wife a spastic? Is it amusing, clever? Were you trying to make him look a fool? Whatever your reasons I am greatly offended.

As a mother of a 3 1/2 year old son, who has cerebral palsy , spastic diplegia, I find it incomprehensible, that in this day and age, there are still people and tv companies, who are willing to use this sort of language as a form of humour. My son struggles every day to do the most basic things. He has only recently learned to sit without lots of support, he cannot stand at all, or walk,he is in a wheelchair, he can only crawl when not using it. He is highly intelligent, and talks all the time about how when he is bigger he is going to walk like his daddy, and play football. He struggles to do things even the very youngest toddlers can do without thinking, yet he is a charming, bright, humourous little soul, who bears no malice to anyone. Would someone from the channel 4 team like to pay a visit to my house, and spend some time with myself and my son, then maybe I could have an explanation as to why including the word spastic in the show was seen as a legitimate source of entertainment?

You may say it is relevent to show what sort of character this man has, but no, it isn't. It has nothing at all to do with the subject of the series, and would have made no difference at all to the way the programme ran, if you had just edited it out.

I am sick and tired of hearing this phrase bandied about, as though people with this type of cerebral palsy, and their families, are unimportant. You wouldn't dare let a racist comment slip through, or a religious attack, for fear of complaints, so how dare you feel it acceptable to make fun of disabled people. My son didn't choose to have cerebral palsy, he should be entitled to have an equal life to those of the non disabled, and that includes not having such ignorant and offensive comments used in everyday life, because of something which is not a lifestyle choice.

I will be contacting Ofcom as well."

Maybe it is our fault for not pulling people up on it when we have the chance. Maybe we should all try and point out that this is unacceptable when we hear these kind of offensive comments. Dh says to his utter shame he said nothing, because there were many in the group, all drunk, and he was quite frankly worried as to how they would react.

Thanks for reading my rant if you have got this far.

Heartily pissed off lou33

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Angeliz · 02/10/2004 16:59

Hope you get a snesible reply Lou!

Hope you're feeling better soon and you're right, if it was a racist comment there'd be hell to pay!

gothicmama · 02/10/2004 17:01

Well done lou33 Thins like this should be challenged but in a way so as not to put yourself in harm (I am not surprised your dh was worried) maybe he could talk to some of them later THink it reads very well

lou33 · 02/10/2004 17:02

Thank you Angeliz. I don't want to turn into some sort of activist, but it really is something I feel strongly about. Maybe I should have attached a pic of my son to show them real people are involved.

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lou33 · 02/10/2004 17:03

Gothicmama, we were away for the weekend in Cornwall, so unlikely to see them again .

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emmatmg · 02/10/2004 17:09

Since I found MN I have learned so much about such alot. It's people like you, Lou that make everyone else sit up, listen and learn abit more about life and everyone around them.

Good for you for standing up against Channel 4, Richard Curtis, and the prat from the telegraph. I hope you get a suitable response. You ABSOLUTLEY deserve one.

MeanBean · 02/10/2004 17:14

Good for you lou. It's a great letter and I'm sure will get a considered response.

turquoise · 02/10/2004 17:15

I'm really shocked that using this word as an insult has come back into common usage. I remember when I was a child in the 70s it was frequently used and being taught then how wrong it was, and TBH I don't think I've heard it much since. If its coming back, then it's because film/tv makers think it's acceptable and people are picking it up.
So well done Lou for standing up against it, and on your behalf.

chonky · 02/10/2004 17:16

Lou33, that's a brilliantly worded letter. I hope the recipient squirms appropriately when they get it.
I've had my eyes opened in a big way in the past few months since dd's birth as to society's attitude towards disabled people. Like you, I don't want to be an activist, but I think it's really important to speak up for people with special needs, as if we don't no-one else will

JJ · 02/10/2004 17:18

You should send a pic of your son because he's so darn cute and it would effectively illustrate your point.

Hope you get a good response.

lou33 · 02/10/2004 17:21

Thanks all. Dh has posted a similar thread on a website he uses, with a picture attached. Maybe it will have a small effect somewhere. I really hope so. It hurts me that there are people who think people like my son, and other disabled men, women and children, are figures of fun.

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pixiefish · 02/10/2004 17:27

sorry you had to hear it lou. well done you for complaining. it IS terribly offensive and i hate hearing it.(the comment obviously not your letter)

Clayhead · 02/10/2004 17:33

Excellent letter Lou33, good luck with getting a reply.

Miaou · 02/10/2004 17:46

Wow, Lou, i wish I was as eloquent as you. Really hope you achieve your aim with this letter.

dinosaur · 02/10/2004 17:48

good on yer, Lou

HelloMama · 02/10/2004 17:49

I think thats an amazing letter you've written and I totally agree with your point about how they would never let a racist or anti-religious remark slip in. The fact is, the more noise people make about this sort of thing the better. Good luck with getting a response!

Rowlers · 02/10/2004 17:51

Good letter Lou, hope you get a considered response and not just a standard "thank you for your letter..." job.
Interestingly, children at my school use this term occasionally to each other (not often it has to be said.) The vast majority have very lttle clue what it actually means and are quite embarrassed when I explain where it comes from and why therefore they shouldn't use it. That gives a little hope at least.

lou33 · 02/10/2004 17:53

Rowlers you make a very good point. This is why I think people need to be informed at grass roots as it were. Turquoise said that she was taught it was wrong in the 70's, and so was I. These sort of words need continual monitoring to ensure they don't come back into regular usage, and twats like RC, and Channel 4, don't help at all.

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Tinker · 02/10/2004 17:54

Think it's a brilliant letter Lou, passionate. Let us know what reply you get.

coppertop · 02/10/2004 18:09

Brilliant letter Lou. Do you have the e-mail address to send it to? I wouldn't mind sending them a similar complaint. Maybe hearing it from a few people might help to get the message through.

fairydust · 02/10/2004 18:17

i didn't see this programme - but like you lou is boils my blood -

can't really type much at the mo as this has upset me (not u lou channel bloody 4)

tamum · 02/10/2004 18:21

That's such a superb letter lou. I would have thought (hoped) that anyone receiving it would be completely mortified.

I hesitate to post this in case in sounds as though I'm making excuses, but this issue of whether people are taught not to use the word makes me think- when I was growing up I knew fine well that this was not an appropriate word to use as a term of abuse, but then when I was growing up the word spastic was still in completely general use as a medical term for cerebral palsy- Scope was still called the Spastics' Society then. I wonder if people are less aware of the real meaning now simply because it's not used in anything other than an inappropriate context now?

Tinker · 02/10/2004 18:23

That's a good point tamum. Rather like cretin, moron and idiot are used now when they used to have specific meanings

Hulababy · 02/10/2004 18:32

Lou - I hope you get a good reply from them.

I hear this term at school regularly and also pick the children up on it, as it offends me also. Mainly when I question pupils about their use of the work and refer them to what it wactually means they are apologetic and haven't really known what they meant. I know ignorance is no excuse at all but I do hope that by picking them up on it can do some good in the long run for them.

I have heard this used several terms this half term and I am determined to dspeak to someone in senior management about it. In the past the school has had whole school talks about racism and homophobia so I can't see why this should be ignored at all.

tamum · 02/10/2004 18:33

Oh, that's right Tinker- we used to use the word cretin quite a lot I'm embarrassed to say, and I was so ashamed when I finally saw a picture in a biology textbook and realised it wasn't just equivalent to something like "idiot". I had just never come across it in the context of disability.

lou33 · 02/10/2004 18:37

I have absolutely no issue with using spastic as a medical term, but this bloke was so obviously using it as an insult.

I sent the channel4 email to [email protected], and the ofcom one via here

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